Step Talk

I have been dealing with this since Lisa and I got serious. She will make time for housework, the kids, errands, whatever and I was Guilty of it too, but if The Grownups DON'T Get Time for Themselves, it causes Feelings of Neglect, Resentment, etc. The Tension gets Higher and Higher, until there is an Eruption, usually a nothing issue disagreement gets escalated into a knock down drag out...

Even if it's only a half hour or less of time blocked out for You Two to sit, Cuddle, have a glass of wine,and talk, or Whatever.
During the week, depending on how young the Kids are, and Your normal Sleep Pattern,Make a Date to go to bed early, give Each Other a gentle massage, and Make Out like Teenagers.

I know it sounds stupid,and trite but You'd be AMAZED at how something that sounds so silly can Rejuvinate Your Feelings and Improve Your Outlook on Life.

I know it's Hard to do, but if You MAKE TIME FOR GROWNUPS on a regular basis, it can do wonders.

Steve

Thanks I think I maybe seeing land as I am treading along lol It always helps to hear things from someone elses point of view

thanks Steve we took some time the last 2 evenings for us we put the kids to bed a little earlier and just cuddled up on teh couch (yes together not one on one side of the room and the other on the other side lol) but it felt great We have always went to bed at the same time but he usually watches TV and I fall asleep but the last 2 nights he hasn't even turned the TV on he just held me as we fell asleep it was wonderful Thanks for your help
crystal

I used to feel guilty about not giving time to my kids so I would cut my own adult timeand time with SO. That fails horribly! The kids understand when you tell them "I need to be left alone for 1hr, if you need something ask _____ until I get back" or tonight is "date night for me and daddy" They will protest, pick giggle and do a whole bunch of other things that make you feel 'weird' but they will come to understand that you are a person with needs and respect you more. They will also learn that relationships are important and need to get some time and attention too. That will hopefully show them to place importance on their SO when they are older. Hell maybe even showing them that will prevent a lot of the issues of their SO feeling unimportant? I hope so!
Good luck! Enjoy being a human and keep in mind that kids need to know that parents are more than just parents, and respect that
Lisa Dawn

Oh yeah one more important thing I left out...it will also show the kids that you two are united against their antics...they NEED that!
Lisa Dawn