pretend it's not you? ahah! I fear this all the time!

I think about this occasionally, but our BM doesn't have internet access or a computer, so I feel pretty safe.

**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**

Create a new profile & name, ditch the other one & stay low-key when posting.
Too bad they won't put security on this site.

~well behaved women seldom make history-Marilyn Monroe~
~As a SM you must give yourself TLC, be self-preserving, be your own best friend...because nobody else will. You ARE strong, you ARE special, you ARE powerful, and you can make this life work-Ms.F~

Didn't somebody come up with a BM alert system of some sort? I believe Crayon did.

I sometimes wonder if BM would come looking around here.

I'd be interested in what Crayon has to say...I think a BM Alert would be an excellent idea.

Yeah! What is Crayon's idea? I'm not overly worried about Poncho Goblin finding me on here, and kind of don't care if she does, but it would be nice if we didn't have to worry about being stalked by BMs. We shouldn't have to hold back on expressing our feelings, experiences and concerns just because some pathetic BMs try to stalk us. I quit Facebook because I was being stalked by her, but she was so stupid that she had a friend stalk me on her behalf and her idiotic friend used her real name! H knew the girl and I called her on it, turned her into the Facebook people and she is now banned from that site for a year. My BM is way too stupid to successfully stalk me on here, but if she did all she would find would be me describing painful truths about her. She's not a big fan of reality and likes to live in a fantasy world of denial, so I think seeing the truth written about her in plain english might be too much for her and she would run away screaming. This is an anonymous site FOR step-parents and is designed to give us a place to vent, chat, get and give support and get and give advice and we should feel safe and free to do so.

So what is Crayon's idea????!!!!!

"If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they will kill you." ~Oscar Wilde

I just copied this from her blog. Don't shoot me Crayon

Just a Thought. . .Maybe we need a Psycho BM Lurker Advisory System
Submitted by crayon on Thu, 01/28/2010 - 8:41am.
Not unlike the Homeland Security advisory system for the Steptalk website.

Green for less than 2% BM content
Yellow for 5-10% BM content
Orange for 10-20% BM content
Red for 20-50% BM content
Brown for over 50% BM content

Normal "can see both sides of the story" BM content doesn't apply, of course.

What happened?

I've been "busy" with the "crew" since Friday night. (after pitching my day long drunk that day..)

To think about it after posting, I WISH the bm bitch would read my comments...It would save me a lot of harrasment and stress and perhaps she "might" finally get the message.

This sucks because I am also a bm (but not a psycho) also...

ADMIN - I guess making this site have privacy (ie. background checks like the SecondWivesClub or CafeMom, etc.) would be too helpful for members - I realize you want to have non-members see the benefits this site has to offer...but the craziness of that is that you're asking people to post, but you have ZERO privacy...thereby allowing BM's, MIL's, whathavyou to come and harrass the members you so want to help. Poor non-profit (yet you ask for donations) business operation IMO - hence the reason I haven't donated to the site. If you did this, I would be in full monetary support! I'll get backlash but I don't care b/c someone has to say this. There has been so many members SCARED to post b/c of being found out by whomever in the Stepfamily. I keep suggesting this, and a lot of others agree (I'm sure the one that posted this would agree. I know the ones that have left b/c BM stalked them on here would love to have had a safe haven instead of fair game for BM). Create privacy and you've got that beat. But whatever!!! I don't know anything - cheers & beers!

~well behaved women seldom make history-Marilyn Monroe~
~As a SM you must give yourself TLC, be self-preserving, be your own best friend...because nobody else will. You ARE strong, you ARE special, you ARE powerful, and you can make this life work-Ms.F~

I don't think BM could figure out how to type in the search bar so she's not an issue. DH on the other hand, probably wouldn't care unless he read my blogs then he'd be irked, but I delete all of my history so HA DH TAKE THAT. But for those who have obsessive BMs that have to know their every move some sort of BM security would be nice

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Everyone please see new post!! please please please please please
Please.
"Privacy on ST" - I've been doing this for 2 years people.
come on, you know you want to (peer pressure at it's finest!)

~well behaved women seldom make history-Marilyn Monroe~
~As a SM you must give yourself TLC, be self-preserving, be your own best friend...because nobody else will. You ARE strong, you ARE special, you ARE powerful, and you can make this life work-Ms.F~

Am I damaging my credibility - or his - by venting here?
Here's what happened:
In conversation to DH, she quoted some of my blogs. Said I am a crappy parent, etc. She tried to tell him that I am fake and he doesn't know how I think or what I say about her. She said I am spreading lies.
DH has access to my blog. In fact, he reads it once in a while when I am moody because he wants to know why I am down and I don't like to talk to him much about her because it just makes him tense. This way he can handle whatever he can at his limit. So far it has worked for us.
Anyway, it gave me the creeps because I heard her through the phone and it was exactly what I had said on here.
OMG, I am getting a migraine. I let this silly cow get to me. Damn it.

"Those who deny freedom to others deserve it not for themselves." ~ Abraham Lincoln