I am the step mom of a 16 year old step son. His father and I got married when he was about 7 years old. I can not deny that through out our entire marriage I have been deeply concerned about the child. From the time he was a kid he has been painfully shy and quiet, we are lucky to get a head nod out of him sometimes. When he comes in the door he immediately goes into the play room & lays on the day bed with the covers over his head. He won't speak to either myself or my husband. If we ask him questions and try to engage we simply get a shrug of the shoulder, a head nod, or a head shake. This is strange to me bc since he was 7 he has spent 50/50 time w us and his mom so he knows is very well. He suffers from severe add and is failing every single one of his classes. Often I look at him and he is staring off into space & in a completely different world. Often when I speak to him I'm not even sure if he's heard me bc he won't even look at me or acknowledged I have said something. There are times when he wants to " play " he is always very rough, every time he plays with other kids they are much younger than him & he always ends up accidentally hurting someone bc he doesn't know his own strength. He also likes " to make noises as if he was autistic or special Ed, that's the only time I hear him make any kind of noise. I'm not sure if it's some kind of " release " for him bc he has such severe add but it's strange to me that he ALWAYS does this. He is perfectly capable of talking but chooses not to. From what I have gathered he has friends who he talks to. He seems to never get happy or sad but just is at the same kind of mopey state 24/7. He is always picking his nose & eating his bugers as well, right in the open where everyone can see. Sometimes I wonder how he has gotten through school this far bc from what I can tell he really doesn't comprehend or Understand things very well. Everyday life for him is a struggle. He is always " sneaking " too sometimes I will catch him going through our things or trying to look through mine or his dad's phone. One time I saw him cutting up one of our old pillows with sizers another time I saw him breaking a calculator. It's not really that I care about these things it's more strange to me the sneakiness of what he's doing. I know all teenagers are weird but can anyone shed light on what might be going on with him?