It's a learning curve
...it gets easier. To say it straight.
This morning, while making coffee, DP says to me "I need to do something about SD11 being online so much."
I have heard this sooooooo many times now.
Me, as I keep doing what I am doing, "well you know what you need to do, and I cannot have a part in it. It's up to you."
DP, "Don't try to make me feel inept!"
Me...WTF?? "I am not doing that, it's just that you have the power to do it, not me. If you want her to be on electronics less then do it."
DP, sigh. Then proceeds to do nothing.
Tonight while watching a movie, DP couldnt find the remote. We look around and he wonders aloud if SD11 took it when she left the room. I find it and just hand it to him and also find the top to his sunscreen he lost weeks ago. Aha! Then he gets irritated and says "you can't expect kids to always put thing back the way you want." Me, WTF? I just say I thought YOU lost the top to it not them...jeez I didn't even say or do anything.
Then SD11 struts into our room AGAIN without knocking. Instantly me, "SD11 do NOT come in here without knocking. It's rude and we give you consideration to knock on your door and we expect the same." DP, "Um, Yeah." So that's it. Door locked from now on. Right now.
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I didn't tell her to leave
I didn't tell her to leave because she had a legit issue. But I made DP lock the door and to him it's locked from now on, until knocking is done all the time with no whining from anyone. Done.
My cats are not going to like it.
yes, I WILL. Thank you
yes, I WILL. Thank you ladies!
DUH on me.
yeah, I'm not cutting a hole
yeah, I'm not cutting a hole in the door. It's a beautiful hardwood double door. The cats will live.
Bottom line: these guilty
Bottom line: these guilty dads want US to be the "bad guy/ogre" to their children. So they can appear to be the "FUN dad" while getting a modicum of rules/expectations/training in via the EEEEVVVVIIIIIIILLLLLL bad guy SM.
Behind closed doors they tell us what they think SHOULD happen with their children; hoping that SM will immediately engage and play mommy.
But then dad has the ultimate right to undermine SM and chastise her for being "too strict" (usually in FRONT OF said spoiled rotten children) thusly forming a gang of dad and previously enjoyed family.
SM is supposed to smile like a Miss America contestant after said undermining and being ganged up on.
It's also "fun" for daddykins to get out the micron microscope and try VERY HARD to FIND perceived "grudges" against his children that the SM almost CERTAINLY holds. (sarcasm tags OFF)
United front be damned. File under: dad has his cake and eats it too.