I had the most horrible experience on the weekend and I need help/guidance to help me to sort through it all. Long story (as theres "history" with the oldest SD who was 19 at the time living FT with me- unemployed, not contributing and expecting my then fiance (her dad) and me to support her entitled ways)...she was "given" a $7000 car to sell by her father to help her as she had no money. I saw a post on FB about her selling it and I asked her on facebook what was going on and why is she selling her sisters car (it was given to her sister before then passed onto her)...and then she blocked me without responding..I was furious as WE could have done with the money. He was FURIOUS with me for daring to be furious about what he does with his precious daughter, acted badly and so we broke up.

In the mean time and over the course of about 18 months we lived separately but worked on our issues. I thought he understood why I was so upset (him enabling her)and discounting my feelings about the matter. So we married in April this year. We have been together for 5 years and attempted to live together when the first incident happened when his kids were living with us FT and then we broke up to then resume living together in February this year. In the mean time, SD20 lives with her boyfriend, SD18 just stores her stuff and comes and goes when she likes and SS16 lives FT with us.

I arranged my horse to be sold on by SD20 as that is "her job" - she dosent work a FT job but tries to make a living by looking after other peoples horses (as well as her own) and getting horses and selling them on- on her property she is renting. She is dodgy at the best of times (ripping people off) but I needed this horse sold and we had sort of rekindled a polite relationship and all was good...or so I thought. My DH wanted this horse of mine gone as it was an eating machine and SD was happy to take it so he floated it over himself and I thanked him for his time and effort (he had a day off from work and didnt seem to mind) and I really didnt want to be driving an hour each way.

Anyway, after what I would call some dodgy brother selling tactics, the horse sold and she made a tidy sum from it. Our arrangement was I get $1000. All good. Well that was 4 weeks ago and I still hadnt heard boo out of her (and not once personally throughout the who ordeal) and I knew she had received the cash from the sale. In the mean time, my DH had been sharing snippets about where the horse was (it was moved to another property without my knowledge) and sold on - but Dh told me not her. 4 weeks later still no cash. I sent her a text " Hi..... Hows things going? Just checking in as I heard that my horse had sold a few weeks ago and you were waiting for the cheque to clear, Im just wondering how its going then as Im hoping to be able to pay off some of my loan for my car... Cheers Stormy

No answer....crickets... that was on the Friday morning time

Then I get home friday night and my DH is FURIOUS at me for texting her as SD20 feels harassed by me....I nearly fell over backwards...WTF!! Harassed? He claimed I was harassing her. How? By sending her that text demanding $$$. LOTS of words were said and I was soooo hurt that NOT ONCE did my DH consider my side but instantly went into defend his precious princess because she felt harassed and later I found out that all his kids including him (he said all of us) is scared of me as to the reason why she didnt bother replying to explain her plans in arranging the money to come my way..there is such a thing as internet banking..but my DH made it out that I was demanding that she drop everything and pay me the money right there and then. He was also furious at me after I claimed that it had nothing to do with him as I was the client, not him. He insisted that I should have gone through him first and not text "my kid". He claimed that he set everything up by negotiated terms and floating the horse to her, so I should be going through him....WTF....his family is fucking crazy. SD 20 apparently told her sister SD18 that she felt harassed by me who in turn rang their father in support of SD20, as SD20 "didnt want to cause any trouble" her words as to why her sister rang her father and not SD20 herself....but still ignored my text and set their father loose on me in massive " must protect my kids" mode.

Im shattered. I thought we had a relationship even after the car incident before hand. DH said I dont have to have a relationship woth them (in protection of them from me because Im so scary I think) but Im guttered to my core that he has once again supported her feeble princess ways over his own wife. Not once did he even want to see my text- as proof It was innocuous...he was convinced HIS daughter felt harassed and scared of me because "we had history" so its true. My feelings and side was squashed. He just seems ok with this division he has caused as theres no way now that I can ever resurrect a relationship with his kids and he seems ok with that. Im devastated in the way Ive been portrayed and persecuted. I dont know how to move forward now and and how to even reconnect with my DH as he was trying to be loving last night and I feel myself withdrawing from being so emotionally squashed and ignored.