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overthere's picture

I have lived apart from my husband for two years. We haven't done anything since his daughter moved in. Read previous blogs to find out backstory. Now he says he doesn't know if he wants to be with me. He can't decide. i have threatened the divorce papers. I said i would just put the day i filed so we would have six months. He liked that idea. I can barely get in touch with him. He never wants to spend time with me. He doesn't call me. I have to call him. i am afraid it is over.

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overthere's picture

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DaizyDuke's picture

HUH? He's choosing to have his adult daughter live with him over his wife?? I think you're better off without both of them! Why has she been living with him for 2 years?? College?? NO job?

overthere's picture

His daughter's husband isn't a US citizen yet. I don't see why she can't go out and get a job.

Evil stepmonster's picture

Be thankful you got out of there before a grandbaby with sunshine coming out of it's ass was born!

constantly_irritated's picture

I know a lot of people who have met their new loves on Match.com and eHarmony. Go sign up and move on. You deserve better. Theres a song in Spanish called "Me Voy" and she says, "Es probable que lo merezco, pero no lo qiuero, por eso, me voy" it means, "Probably I deserve this, but I don't want it. So I'm leaving" You think you deserve what you're getting, but you don't need it. Go ahead and roll those dice, baby. Get back in that saddle! Eat life up!!! You've spent two years on pause, leaving was a great choice. Now go eat that peach!!!

hereiam's picture

He can't decide if he wants to be with you? Then he doesn't because if he wanted to, he would know it.

notsobad's picture

You have to ask yourself how many more years are you willing to live like this? It's been 2 already. I have no idea how old you are but how many years do you think you have left.
Do you want to spend them waiting for something/someone who may never materialize or do you want to spend them happy and enjoying life?

I was in group counselling once for abused women. My ex was financially and emotionally abusive, it's another blog.
However, there was a woman in her 60s there. Her husband was very emotionally and verbally abusive. She would complain and tell tell the most awful stories of the thing he would say and do to her. We would talk about why didn't feel we could leave, it was a support group after all.
She said because I'm old, my life is almost over and I'm just waiting to die. She was only 60, she could have lived for another 20 years and found happiness! But no she was just waiting to die.

Don't just sit there and wait to die.

Indigo's picture

Overthere, it reads as if DH was done months before you moved out a few years ago. Fantasy kept you from moving on? What? I hear no effort in years.

Drinking on the back porch, simultaneously watching TV sounds like "parallel play for grown toddlers."

Let it go. It died a long time ago. Welcome to the next section of your life.