I want to bail...
Hi, ive finally decided to post on this forum and I need some serious advice me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year now and we are both 26 and she has a 7 yr old son (he's a litte shit but I'll get to that later). She is 6 months pregnant with our baby and we just started living together for about 3 months. Ive gotten along with her kid until we moved in together and he whines and cries about EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING just because he doesnt get what he wants at the exact moment and its embarrassing when we take him out and he has a piss poor attitude and I cant get one peaceful night of sleep because he cries everynight wanting to sleep with us in our bed. This kid is 7 and he shits without wiping his ass and cleaning up which is only one of the things he does that makes me rage. And as for the girlfriend her true personality is starting to seap out now that we are livibg together
And she has some serious
And she has some serious insecurities and jealousy issues calling me a "family boy" because I have family dinner at my parents house once a week and she basically said its either me or your family, now that we are going to have a family of our own you have to sacrifice yours which is a fucking crazy and I was speechless hearing that from her mouth. I want to bail but Im also going to have a baby with this person but I dont want to stay just for the baby. If things are this bad now whats the future going to hold? I want to bail but I guess I also dont want to be that guy, advice is much needed guys
And sorry for the split post im posting on my phone
Plan quietly. Get out. Gather
Plan quietly. Get out. Gather your family & friends, 'fess up to stupidity and to the fact that you have tied yourself to a potential crazy BM. Get out. Your unborn child will thank you. Oh, and get DNA at the hospital before you sign birth certificate. Leave.
Then, commit to becoming a
Then, commit to becoming a sane, engaged father to this child. Hang around STeptalk & consider before you date again. Good luck.
I don't blame you! Please
I don't blame you! Please learn from this experience and do not make it any worse by getting married to her. You are young still but she sounds very immature and unable to be the reliable partner you want and need in your life.
Getting a dna test is very good advice!! Don't listen to anyone tell you any different!! Of course if it is yours be there for the baby as much as you are allowed. You can make all the difference in this child's life. Hugs
Don't marry her now! If you
Don't marry her now! If you want to try to stick it out a while and see where it goes, then fine, but do NOT legally trap yourself with what seems to be both immature and crazy at this point.
Definitely get the DNA test.
Learn from this situation. If it doesn't work out, then you make sure to NOT procreate again until you are in a much better situation.
You have been given good
You have been given good advice so far. I am about to offer advice to others that may be reading.
DO NOT MARRY OR LIVE WITH ANYONE UNTIL YOU HAVE KNOWN THEM FOR AT LEAST 2 YEARS!!! And certainly do not knock them up after a few months!
You have decided to have a baby with a woman that could be a potential nightmare. You would have known that if you would not have gotten her PG so quickly.
As for now...all you can do is damage control and hope your baby is not as screwed up as so many kids are from crazy women and broken homes.
Does she go with you to
Does she go with you to family dinner? If not why not.
When you have a family, you do tend to pull away from what was your immediate family, but it is not usually a choice that you have to choose. Is your family welcoming to her or do they treat her like dirt.
What she is going through could be nesting and she is probably hormonal. Thank goodness it may be temporary. I say at least stick it out until at least after she has the baby. And if you decide not to then I strongly suggest that you do not immediately date as it wouldn't be fair to bring someone else into an unresolved situation.
*sigh* This is not the
*sigh* This is not the relationship for you. I see several things in your post that show me your GF would have a VASTLY different description of events, but it's almost irrelevant. You don't want to be in this relationship, pretty much end of story. Man up and end it. Don't be a jerk about it, don't start some huge fight hoping to "force" her to break up with you. Be a man, sit her down and say, "Look, I'm sorry, this isn't working for me. I'll be there for our child and I want to have a decent coparenting relationship with you for our baby's sake, but I just don't want to be romantically involved any more."
Ultimatums are never a good
Ultimatums are never a good way to start a marriage. Sadly you have already spawned with this crazy woman who is telling you it is either her or your family. I would say she made your choice for you. She is raising her prior relationship spawn to be a little shit and if you are not very clear and firm she will do the same with your child if you let her, whether you are together or not.
Better to cut your losses, move on, try for custody, and give your child a counter point example of what a man and father truly is because your child will struggle with the shallow and polluted end of their gene pool provided by the mother for the rest if their life.
Better for you to move on and provide your child with a sane safe haven than to burden yourself with this challenging partner for the rest of your life.
IMHO.