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My DH gave me a gold watch a couple of weeks ago, I rarely get gifts from him. We had a fight and I stayed at my Moms for a night. When I came home he had given my watch to his Son. He had also given him an iPad that I gave my DH for fathers day without telling me any of this. I found out by observation only. How rude!
Yeah Im staying
Yeah Im staying
Through thick and thin and
Through thick and thin and indian giving
Sorry to echo Echo, but yeah
Sorry to echo Echo, but yeah - you get what you get. All you've accomplished is teaching him that if you get into a fight, you'll go away to give him his space and that you'll tolerate his disrespect. Additionally, you've allowed him to teach his son that you'll permit disrespect, so guess who's next?
I get "through thick and thin," and "for better and for worse" - BUT - if you don't show some self-respect, they won't either. You teach people how to treat you by how you handle yourself and by how you allow them to treat you. You're training them both how to mistreat you.
Observation: Giving away a gift he previously gave to you because he's mad sounds like a child's "I'll show her" temper tantrum.
Next gift, something already
Next gift, something already donated in his name; a sum of of money to charity. Diamond earrings to yourself. Wee home for your pet. Do the re-gifting FOR HIM. Ha!
I'd be going to the son and
I'd be going to the son and getting the watch back saying it wasnt your fathers to be giving it away in the first place.
Then I'd give the watch to charity. Buggered if I would want it after playing such a dick move.
Hurting the kid to get back
Hurting the kid to get back at the dad is a bitch move.
The best way to get back the person who actually hurt you, is to confront him directly.
I'm sorry Disney but you are
I'm sorry Disney but you are wrong here. That watch belonged to the OP and wasn't the husband/fathers to give. She has every right to reclaim her watch and tell the child that his father should not have taken it and given it away, he had no right as it was not his to give.
There is nothing bitchy about reclaiming your possessions when they have been taken without your consent.
It's not ok to hurt the kid
It's not ok to hurt the kid because his father pulled a dick move. Flip out on the adult who hurt you and leave the kid out of it. In this case the kid is the easy target.
She's not going to "flip out
She's not going to "flip out on the kid" or hurt him in any way, simply point out that the watch was given in error as it was hers and she wants it back.
My dd22, when she was 12, took her tamagotchi to school. Another kid stole it from her and gave it to her friend. The tamagotchi was found in the possession of the friend, who explained that child b had given it to her. The tamagotchi was given back to my daughter as it was HER possession, child c may or may not have been upset to lose it but the fact remains that it was never rightfully hers. Same thing here. The child will not be damaged or in any other way "abused" by the OP explaining that the watch is actually hers and taking it back.
Oh, and the OP would not be the one who involved the kid - that was the fathers mistake, and he is not being made an "easy target". Personaly, I would be politely reclaiming the watch (then selling it or giving it away) and flipping out on the father who behaved like a total arsehole.
I just think dad should be
I just think dad should be the one to handle this. If the OP does it, she will be the evil SM who took a gift away from the kid. The fact that it wasn't dad's to give will be lost.
The kid will be hurt, the OP will be the big bad wolf and dad gets to swoop in and be the hero.
Give dad hell and refuse to accept any more gifts from him for a while. If you put your foot in his ass deep enough, HE will take the watch back from the kid. Once he gets it back, he will try to return it the OP. That's when you toss it in his face and tell him to stick it in his ass.
Sorry Disney but I disagree
Sorry Disney but I disagree as well... Technically it is stolen property. What happens when the kid is over 18 and a "friend" either gives him or sells him this great noew sound system for his car...and its stolen. Do you think the police will let "little johnny" keep it because they don't want to upset him??? Hell no...they will take it from him and probably charge him for having it. Kids need to learn lessons....If the OP explains it in a way that is not aggressive or nasty, the kid will learn something. I promise if my BS was given an item in this manner and found out later it was someone elses property...he would not want to keep it.
Holy crap ! That's not
Holy crap ! That's not cool... that action would be met with an equal reaction. I will NEVER be in a line up behind anyone's kid. Period.Dot.
Things don't matter to me.
Things don't matter to me. But I do have things with sentimental value. What your SO did was very cruel.
Regardless of what you decide
Regardless of what you decide about the watch, this man is an a**hole. Let him know that you will not be treated like that. You deserve better and do NOT tolerate it. There's still men out there that know how to treat a lady.
Im not taking the watch back
Im not taking the watch back off the kid, He has done nothing wrong
Its my asshole DH thats got his morals screwed. And the iPad is bullshit because its unfair double standards again with the other kids. I gave it to him as a gift. Guess it shows where his prorates lay when it comes to his wife and his Son and Im not winning lol
The watch is quite cool, its
The watch is quite cool, its large for a womans watch
Also my SS didn't know it was
Also my SS didn't know it was my watch, He has no idea
So what are you going to tell
So what are you going to tell your SS? The truth? That the watch was not your DH's to give? That if he keeps it, it is exactly like receivng stolen property? The lesson you will teach then, is exactly like what posters are saying.. that it's acceptable to keep stolen property. That is absolutely appalling parenting.
What have you done to your DH to make him regret treating your gift so callously? This is a good time to teach him how his actions have affected you. In other words, that were me..i'd be wrapping that i-pad around his brain and jamming that watch up his ass.. but that's me.. you see, I expect my SO to cherish my gifts and respect my things.
I kind of think that allowing
I kind of think that allowing this boy to keep your watch is like telling him that it's ok to keep things that aren't his. I understand that his Dad gave it to him, but if the watch was yours, it wasn't his to give to his son and I think you should explain it that way to your SS.
You really need to teach him the right lesson and get the watch back.
Um, I still think keep the
Um, I still think keep the Kid out of it, He did nothing wrong. If we take it back then my DH will be an indian giver to his Son, Im not OK with that. Seriously stolen property? come on
The issue is my DH giving the son everything he wants despite the hurt it causes to me and the unfairness to the other kids