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when close is too close

SugarSpice's picture

i wrote about my brother and his son before. we know just how sick it can be when a parent is too close to a child.

my brother and his son are best friends. they do everything together. the son is almost 30 and has no job and dropped out of college. he worked at a bookstore for a year or so then quit. he loves rock music and spends all of his time in the garage on his guitar or stuck to his digital pad. he refuses to look for work and wears his hair dyed purple. who will hire him like that?

young adults need their own friends to hang out with and parents need their own friends.

needless to say the brother is not married. he also did not marry the boys mother was she was a drug addict.

sick sick sick.

Disneyfan's picture

They are adults. As long as neither one is asking you to pay their bills, it isn't your problem.

There's nothing wrong with the two of them being best friends. Being close to your parents is a good thing. It's possible your brother doesn't want a wife. Maybe he's happy to just date.

SugarSpice's picture

i am simply pointing out just how sick enmeshment can be. these parents choose their children over adult relationships, including the spouse.