Ok I have a decent relationship with my step daughter and do not post on here a lot so hope this makes sense. She is the only daughter of husbands that lives with us full time. Mother is not in the picture since she was 3 years old. I have a son 2 years old and another son that is 4 months old. I try my best to split my time up but i am not always successful. husband and I work different shifts also. I do know I spend more time with the boys then I do with her but again they need me more then she does. I feel like telling her to stay home is mean cause no one her age to keep company and im usually pretty busy with the boys and im lucky if they both sleep at them same time to even have a chance to do anything with her. Although she is nine and getting to the point where mommy and daddy are not cool anymore When is it enough? I cant always have her going places but she is home and just complains about everything and sometimes im releived when she is gone cause there is peace. anyways summer is coming and I know she will be asking to spend time other places alot. How do you respond and how do you know how much to let her go places and how much she should be home. If she had it her way she would never be home. so any advice would be great thanks.