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AmIWicked's picture

Two things,.. well today...

MIL calls me an hour ago "I asked the kids if you had extra milk in your fridge, we are out over here, so you are less a gallon. Just wanted to let you know "
This wasn't the whole conversation, but what she said first...

Now we are at SS baseball game. The coach's wife came up and handed my husband a print our of the schedule saying, "your mother called saying SS didn't know when the next game was and you didn't have a schedule..."
Uh, WE have a schedule. MIL does not. We have our online so BM can see it and on the calendar in or kitchen... Instead of asking DH or me she calls the coach?! WTF?!

Monchichi's picture

Get your DH to tell his mother to butt out. They seldom listen to a DIL unless it's an Ex DIL.

borrowedtime83's picture

LOL @ "marie from Raymond"!
At least most of the time it seemed like Marie meant well, just went about it the wrong way. I don't think that I can give most of the other MIL's that same credit.

And WHAT IS UP with the MIL always wanting to be buddy-buddy with the EX WIFE!?
PLEASE someone have an answer for that!

Monchichi's picture

Most ExW control access to the grandchildren. If the MIL wants s lot of access she has to be the ex's buddy.

AllySkoo's picture

Yep, this. Oddly, I had this conversation with a friend recently. Her brother is divorce and now engaged to a new woman. Her whole family is ready to write him off for "his behavior", they think he's "confrontational".

Well, as it happens, they're all "friends" with his ex - because then they get to see the kids more often. *shrug* I pointed out that from HIS (and the new SM's) perspective, THEY are the ones who've chosen a side, and that side is not with the family he is currently trying to build.

Sadly, my friend brushed me off by saying "Well, but his actions resulted in this! He needs to own his part!" True, as far as it goes, but she's certainly not owning HER part!

hereiam's picture

your mother called saying SS didn't know when the next game was and you didn't have a schedule..."

Good grief, does she sneak over and iron his underwear, too?

AmIWicked's picture

Lol! No but she has snuck over and ironed shirts prior to a funeral!!
God forbid I iron them wrong....

borrowedtime83's picture

See, if BM has custody, that at least makes a little sense.
On our end, SO is the CP, and MIL talks crap about her own son and me continuously, and commiserates with BM all the time. I am convinced they are on a mission to get SD to hate both of us!
I guess that is why I am confused Blum 3

AmIWicked's picture

My DH has custody... MIL was a 2nd mom to the skids before I came along.
She does butt in with DH and BM stuff. Wanting to make arrangement s with BM without DH knowing.... but I mostly think she doesn't want the "grandma" role... she likes her house being a 2nd home(or THE primary home) for the kids...