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Do your Skids steal things?

momof4AU's picture

I just read a thread about this, but now I can't find it. When my SD 11 comes for her eowe visit, I have to hide our valuables and any cash or change we have laying around. She has stolen from us multiple times in the past, and stolen from her grandparents as well. Any one else go through this too? What do you do about it besides put everything on lockdown...

Redredwine's picture

We put locks on the closet doors. Even the other kids. Everyone has at least a closet where they can put stuff, just in case.

momof4AU's picture

Great idea!! I will do it myself...wonder what DH will say? Im going to start dumping out the weekend bag and tossing the room like a jail cell. I could never trust her again. I can definitely believe that about jewelry. I hide my jewelry big time and there is a deadbolt on our bedroom door. The last thing she stole was an iTunes card. She had been going through kitchen drawers to find that. I know she took it too. She is the only one of my kids who is even old enough to know what an iTunes card is. It is so annoying. The lying and stealing. And DH wants her to live with us! No bueno!!

Strengthh's picture

Mine stole valuables like money or other valuables example a camera. So I got locks on my kids rooms and I locked my stuff up.,even my H had to hide his wallet. Then she started stealing random things. Like a can opener. Just random junk. I would search her bag before she left. Then she got smart and started sneaking it out under her clothes, stuff like that. Since visitation has stopped in the home, the big difference is things go missing but eventually turn up. Vrs. When my SD would visit, things would go missing and never pop up. And her worthless father would get mad that I dared say anything about his precious.

4ever's picture

That is brilliant i really like the way you and your husband operate. How long did it take for your stepson to learn his lesson so you could stop the patdowns and prison searches?

Rags's picture

Applause!!! I would have added a half-dozen or so full swing swats to bare kid ass with a paddle just to put an exclamation point on the lesson each time he stole.

Rags's picture

No the kid never stole anything but the Sperm Clan sure did. They would take the travel money we gave to SS when he was young. As he got older they forced him to pay for lunch, fill their gas tanks,etc.... with his travel money.

His quality name brand clothing would not make it home but ironically it would have been replaced with Walmart crap. The nice clothes would show up on the three younger also out of wedlock Sperm Idiot spawned half sibs in family photos that of course SS was not included in.

Then we opened a joint account and would lock and unlock SS's debit card during his Sperm Clan visits. We would lock it when he arrived in the Sperm Land airport and unlock it after they dropped him back off at the airport.

You should have heard them rant on the phone the first time we locked his card on their end. We waited until he arrived at the airport on their end just in case something happened at a layover location. They did their usual stop for a nice lunch and have the SKid pay for it game. Sperm GrandHag, the three younger half sibs, SS, and a couple of Sperm Grandhag's friends were all there. They had no money for the lunch bill and when SS's card was declined Sperm Grandhag went postal. They also did not have enough gas to get home or money for for gas. They sat at the restaurant for hours until Sperm Grandpa showed up after having scrapped together enough money for the lunch bill and some gas. They lived about 2 hours from the airport so by the time Sperm Grandpa could get there it was many hours later.

}:) }:) }:)

They always made SS call them before he got on the plane after they dropped him off on their end. He would call from a nice airport restaurant where he would be having lunch after going through security. That used to piss them off to no end since his card would never work when he was with them. He used to tell us that his pre departure for home lunch at the airport was always the best meal he had while in Sperm Land.

When it came to recovering the stolen nice clothing we would send them a bill for the clothes they stole under our killer attorney's letter head complete with purchase receipts. They would tremble every time they saw his law office name on the envelope and shortly after the clothes would show up in a package to our mail box.

The would respond by sending us a demand to return some ancient clothing or item they had purchased. His baby car seat (when the Sperm Idiots next out of wedlock spawn was born), clothing, etc....

Nope, you give the kid clothes they are his just like when we gave the kid clothes, they were his clothes. Besides, the stuff they wanted back would cost more to send back than to replace. Nope, it went to GoodWill and we got the tax write off. }:)

Then the crying and gnashing of teeth about how mean we were and how unfair it was would start. We should pay them CS when he was with them, his travel money was to help support him while he was in Sperm Land, whaaaaaaaaaa!

Tough shit. Don't steal and you won't suffer the consequences.

fedupskiddad's picture

The night my ss13 who was 12 at the time stole his grandmas CC and my business card that was linked to my checking on a sunday at a family.outing over free wyfi on his cell phone which I promptly smashed that night after dragging him through the living room.and making him stand at parade rest on yhe porch untill the police arrived. Grana didnt press charges but I did. Wife didny want me to but I tild her that if we didnt I was gone for good. The police auctualy took him to his grandmas house that night for his own safty. He got 3 months probation. Thats fking it. I had to get a start fresh checking account and everything. His brother.is no better at 11 has stole from his cpusins on Christmas day and a couple of stores. My wife actually got pissed at me for him being on probation. The kid came in my riom while I slept to get my card. I still dont trust him and my wife still treats gim like.hes 5. If the kids a minor your scrwed on the legal system doing anything.

Ninji's picture

What did you think an 12yr old would get? At least you showed him that you aren't putting up with that type of behavior. Has he stolen from you since?

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

We never thought in the past that SS16 would steal from us, but then he was caught stealing at school, and BM had some money turn up missing. So we installed cameras in our house because he was alone for a while after school. Sure enough, we caught him going through cabinets and drawers,and going into our bedroom. When he was confronted, he of course couldn't explain what he'd been doing. He was never left alone in the house again after that.

Pokeyketchum's picture

I had bought a bunch of stuff for both SDs. Bathroom stuff, hair stuff, makeup, flat irons etc for our house. So they would have stuff here and be comfortable. Probably about $300 worth of things. We didn't know it was youngest SDs last visit, due to PAS, but I guess she did. She took it all. Down to body wash and hair spray.

Not really stealing but odd.

Her older sister stayed and asked to use my curling Iron and makeup. I said there is a whole set upstairs. She said "no there isn't. 16sd took it."

H was dumfounded.

Again. Not stealing really. Just weird.

ocs's picture

We bulk buy some stuff at Costco. You know, toilet paper, tampons etc.. I couldn't for the life of me figure out where it was going, but i think i may know...

It's only DH and I in the house, with SD EOWE, kind of, usually a one night visit.

A box of 48 tampons gone and I know there was a TON of tp in the guest bathroom cabinet. GONE.

young_sm's picture

My skid would go into our bedroom when we weren't home and take whatever he pleased. One day I picked him up from school only to find him in one of my sweatshirts that was hanging in MY closet that I repeatedly told him he could not wear. When I confronted him about it he denied going into our bedroom and taking it. Flat out lied to my face. After that we put a lock on our bedroom door and put all of our valuables in there when we are not home.

SugarSpice's picture

when skids were about six or so they stole money and jewelry from the daycare woman. dh did not have the balls to discipline them but gave them a "stern lecture" that they ignored. lol! no wonder they grew up to be upstanding adulsts, one of who went on the shoplift and was only saved because of age minor.

i always had locks on the doors of bedrooms and rooms with my personal things. i truly envy women whose husbands have a pair.

Stepped in what momma's picture

I always worried about hired pet sitters being alone in my home for days on end while I was out of town so I have locks on my bedroom door and the office door along with cameras in my home. No stolen items for me but this stuff was already in place before the skids so it worked out great.