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OMFG: Text Messages to MY phone at 6:55 AM from BM

Flying.Purple.Step.Monster's picture

When I was a kid I was taught that you don't call people before 9am or after 8pm unless it was an emergency. Now will cell phones it seems like any sort of manners have gone out the window. Who the hell thinks it's ok to start texting someone before 7am on a Sunday to talk about switching a weekend?! It can't wait 2 freaking hours?!?!

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WTF...REALLY's picture

HRNCY, how do you get from someone being RUDE to text so early to possible child not being able to talk in the phone to the BM??????

It was rude! Plain and simple.

Most people no longer have land lines. This is our times we live in now. However, manners still apply.

WTF...REALLY's picture

And notice how she did not say that it is inappropriate for BM to text SM and not DH?

As a BM, I find her over LOVE Of BMs disturbing. Just because it was your uterus that a child came out of, it does not automatically make you right.

z3girl's picture

I know how this feels. When I was 8 and 9 months pregnant with our first child, BM seemed to make a habit of texting DH at 4 and 5 in the morning. DH did NOTHING about it. He said that it was a normal time for her to be awake, and he didn't care that it woke me up but not him. He also refused to silence his phone.

I agree about manners being gone since cell phones.

My DH doesn't believe in landlines anymore. If it continued, something would have had to change, but it was annoying at the time. I hope I don't jinx myself typing this, but now that SD23 is emancipated, DH doesn't get as many texts in the middle of the night.

Flying.Purple.Step.Monster's picture

I'm not sure why I was the one contacted. I guess DH had forgotten that she asked to switch weekends. SHE was married to him for 8 years.. she knows he forgets stuff like that. You can't just do that stuff verbally with him. If he's 5 minutes late picking them up then I also get a text message asking where he is. I'm not his keeper.

Raggles's picture

Id have her blocked on my phone. Not my kids. And im not my DH keeper. If he is late she should be contacting him NOT you.
If all fails start phoning her at all hours of the night until she gets the message not to disturb you!!

Glassslipper's picture

Any calls/texts before 9am or after 9pm are unacceptable in my book.
When I was a teen, if the phone rang after 9pm, my mom would answer it. If they asked for me she would ask "who died?" And give them a lesson on phone edecate.
BM would never call or text me now, I have her blocked and she knows it.
Not my circus not my monkeys and she is the ring leader of the circus so I have her blocked!

ChiefGrownup's picture

Sore spot with me, too. BM works an early shift so she thinks nothing of texting well before dawn. 4, 5, whatever. Sometimes it awakens dh sometimes it doesn't. But it almost always awakens me. Worse, he would answer and there we'd be in the dark in bed him texting his ex-f'n-wife. At first I was all, oh, the chilllldren, must be something important for the chillllldren!!!

After being married for awhile I realized the "important" things for the children amounted to just nonsense and convenience for BM. I also realized I was beginning to resent it and finally it dawned on me she should GET THE F OUTTA MY BED!!!!!

So I told him. He now turns the sound off. He answers whatever the text is when we get up. Still sometimes it vibrates and wakes me up. Never him, though.

Unfreakingreal's picture

SD14 does not have a cellphone. There is no landline at her house and no Wifi. BM is presently on vacation in another country. SD was at our house this weekend and I had to drive her to school this morning because since there is NO PHONE at her house, we refused to leave SD14 home alone. BM is on a plane now headed home. When SD asked her "You have money for a vacation but you can't afford to buy me a phone for emergencies?"
Her mom's reply was "I don't have money for THAT."
SD14 replied "I see. So a vacation is more important that my safety."
BM ignored her.