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OT- how do you keep your relationship alive?

livebyfaith's picture

I was wondering what everyone else does to keep their relationship with their SO alive?
We like to go for walks together, have picnics (even just in the yard while the kids sleep) and snuggle on the lounge in front of the fire.

misguided's picture

EOW when we don't have the kids we spend a half a day in bed, we have breakfast in bed, watch movies, talk and ya know. It's great and I would highly reccomend it. We also go sailing about once a month and spend the night out on gulf. It really reconnects us.

Amazed's picture

We go to comedy clubs a lot (laughter is SEXY BABY!!!) We have date nights,we soak in the hottub together and smoke a cigar, we work out together, sit by the fireplace together,play pool,watch movies,flirt shamelessly with each other,we started sexting(sex-texting)...lots of stuff just to keep us close. The stepfamily thing will rip us apart regularly and we have to keep pushing against the waves to find each other again. Every little thing we do counts for something big.

"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."

..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."

Pantera's picture

You have a relationship? Whats that? lol.

We get blockbuster movies in the mail, order carry out and we goof off ALOT. We also do the horizontal tango alot Smile

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

soverysad's picture

Dh and I take time for each other every single day. We always eat dinner together (as a family). After dinner we do a crossword together while we unwind. And after SD goes to bed (8pm on the dot), we have wild monkey sex! We cuddle up on the couch to watch tv. We also like to hike, bike, canoe, fish, camp and do other outdoor activities. It doesn't really matter what we're doing though, we just make sure we take the time to do things together and we talk about everything. Plus I work from home and dh often works from home too so we get to see each other a lot more than most spouses.

I forgot we love live music. We do a lot of concerts.

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belleboudeuse's picture

Luckily, we have the kids Tues evening, Thur evening, and EOWE. And I don't have kids, so that means that we do have a fair amount of alone time. That's huge.

We also went through first marriages where there wasn't a lot of intimacy, so we are both really aware of how important time together is. Any night we don't have the kids, he mixes me a martini or I pour him a glass of wine, and we decompress for 15-20 minutes together. Then we go in the kitchen and I hang out and drink my wine and chat with him while he makes dinner. And of course, weekends are sacred. We are kind of joined at the hip, so we don't really do very much where we're not with one another.

And of course, lots and lots of sex! LOL!

BB

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Amazed's picture

The first thing I had after my 25hr labor/birth of choochoo was gingerale and oreo cookies...the nurses told me the bar was closed at 4am so I just missed last call Wink

"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."

..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."

stepof 1nitemare's picture

We do alot of sexting during the day, and then back up our promises at night.. We also lay on the couch together alot, and we watch football together, thats what we both really enjoy and we love to watch it together, and we have our fantasy teams that we do.. Every night no matter what he kisses me on top of my head before we go to bed, cheesy I know but I love it, and I always hold onto his arm while I am going to sleep. Feeling him close is sooo wonderful!!!

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