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Newimprvmodel's picture

My youngest daughter is now looking at colleges and top of her list is one basically on the opposite coast....a state college. No coincidence it is 1 hour from her father's girlfriend ........yes my ex has a long distance thing and is actually there at least a week every month. And here us the kicker......he is manipulating her to go there and he expects me to pay for it. And yes he makes 4 or 5 times as much as I do. I know if I raise any issues it will push her further there.
My ex is having my daughter spend 2 weeks this summer alone with his girlfriend at her home under the guise as working in her field of business.
Am I threatened? Damn straight! I know that my current husband's wife totally alienated his daughters away from him and I do not want this to happen with mine.
What my situation is a selfish ex who wants our daughter at a school close to his girlfriends home and have me pay for it! And what happens if their relationship goes kaput?
My approach has been to just accept it because if I raise objections it will push her there more.

Newimprvmodel's picture

I need to clarify.....he expects me to pay dollar to dollar like him yet he has failed to,pay anything of our oldest kids colleges.

Pilgrim Soul's picture

In general, how do college costs get paid, as per your divorce decree? Who takes out loans for the kids, etc? Who's responsible for what?

As for feelings, may be being away from you is what your daughter needs to appreciate you more?
I do not know enough but do you have reasons to believe she would be alienated? I thought you and your ex had a decent relationship....
Also, dad' s girlfriend is not a replacement for mom. I don't think she is a threat.