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Do you ever get the impression that DH and BM like the drama?

Redredwine's picture

Sometimes I wonder if they do things the way they do--over communicate, under communicate, word things in a provocative (not sexy, provoking) way, read into things--just to keep poking each other? And yet they both seem to want the other to back down. What are they waiting for? An apology? Did someone not "win" in the divorce? What issue is not closed yet that they cannot let go?

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Anna21's picture

Same with my DH, he hates BM so much he wont actually talk to her about anything, its only ever emails or texts but sometimes a conversation is needed (as in the SS12 failing some of his subjects at school). DH says she is incapable of an adult normal conversation, but to be fair, when it comes to BM, neither is he. They would both be screaming at each other.

hereiam's picture

My DH absolutely hates drama and communicated with BM as little as possible and not at all since SD got married at 18.

But BM? Yes, she likes drama. When DH would pick up and drop off when SD was young, BM would do whatever she could to start crap, which is why DH took somebody with him for a long time.

BM could not let go because she didn't get her way. She wanted DH to go back to her and he wouldn't. And he was damn well going to pay for it.

Ninji's picture

My SO and BM BOTH love the drama. They fight over everything. SO gets pissed and I repeat my mantra "Ignore the whore" He will listen for a few weeks and be right back at it. Unless it's something that effects me, I ignore it now.

DaizyDuke's picture

Yes, sometimes I think my DH likes the skid/BM drama. Although HE claims he hates it all and wishes he could move to the middle of nowhere, there are times that I have thought he could easily shut shit down and he does not which makes me think he likes it?

I just don't know how my DH managed to attract the sheer volume of losers in his life? BM1, BM2, GBM, SD17, SS16, MIL, Aunt J, multiple "friends" (I guess MIL and Aunt J he can't help) but I seriously have not one family member or one friend past or present who creates drama... EVER! Yet DH has a freaking plethora of them? Sometimes I feel that he must be the common denominator??

My4kidsmom's picture

DH finally completely blocked psych BM from everything! Email, phone, text etc. We have full custody of SS17 and have for 9 years. SS has a cell phone and can talk to her anytime he wants. She's never paid a dime of child support for any of the 3 skids over the years and lives 3000 miles away. We have no need to EVER talk to her barring a medical emergency. Even then she would be completely useless and blame us for causing it but expect us to buy her a ticket (not a chance).
I even went on facebook, unblocked her long enough to block ALL her friends so that she couldn't stalk us through anyone else and then re-blocked her asap.

MamaDuck's picture

My SO wants justice. BM's lies bother him, he knows there's no point confronting BM, but when others are involved, he tends to get very invested in the drama. He has gotten better, last lawyer/GAL communication, his response was very level headed... then a few days later he wrote an email to his lawyer pretty much whining about the injustice and that once again BM had successfully gotten what she wanted. Sigh. One step forward, two leaps back.

Monchichi's picture

I am very much of the view if you can't be polite just don't talk at all. It's our modus operandi with BM. We have complete radio silence unless it's urgent or the new years visitation schedule. Even if SO tries to be polite she finds a way to attack him, insult him or say he is a bad father. The nastiness is draining. I often think BM hopes it will make SO go away. (And she may well be right)