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nebraskastepmom's picture

Yesterday my husband emailed me to tell me that his 21 year old daughter and her boyfriend want us, his parents and her bio-mom to go boating with them on their 2nd anniversary in July and that something special might happen (read engagement). I absolutely dread being forced to spend the day on a boat with her. There will be no place to go when I need a break. She has not been nice to us in the 10 years we have been together and she always acts all cute and flirty when she is around my husband (she was the one who ended the marriage). My husband never responds to her and I am not worried about him wanting her back. I just can not stand the bitch and how awkward it will be to spend a day acting like we are all having fun. Help! I don't know how to act fake and pretend like I am fine with this.

Maxwell09's picture

Dear God, don't go! Whats even worse is if she doesn't end up getting engaged and you've wasted that whole day of torture for nothing! Yeah catch a cold or something.

hereiam's picture

This is a terrible idea.

My husband would absolutely not go but his daughter at least knows better than to ask something like this. A boat? He doesn't even like to be in the same zip code as BM.

Ridiculous.

momandmore's picture

BM1's kids know better. Lol.
BM2 tries to manipulate her kids (much younger) into having her over for dinner and birthday parties (stupid stuff) they have never asked because I think they know their mom just wants to be around dad. :sick:

sandye21's picture

"Would be an opportune time for her to announce their engagement, and then use the confined space to discuss everyone's financial contributions to her wedding, where nobody could run." Yes, this is definitely a possibility - and probably the reason she invited both of you.

Have DH ask how big the boat is. If it is a nice size, take your fishing gear, a cooler full of beer and have a good time at the back of the boat while you totally ignore every request for money.

jennaspace's picture

Since DH isn't comfortable with ex, let him decline or offer another solution. I like the idea of having your own boat. I know nothing about boats, but it might be possible to go meet them on their boat for an hour or so (for the big announcement) at the dock and then make a quick get away in your boat or on foot. Either way, I'd leave it to my DH to explain it to his dtr that this is awkward all around.