Hubby in hospital
So my DH is in the hospital for the past few days. He's a transplant recipient and has run into a few issues that we hope can be resolved. He's been hospitalized so many times over the last 10 years. Every single time, I would make his kids aware. I always felt it was my obligation to do so but they never got off their asses to ever visit him. Well, this is the first time I didn't tell any of them since I disengaged! Not my job to inform adults about their fathers condition. If he were on his death bed I'd have another family member notify them but that's not the case thankfully. They'll find out eventually when they call him for something, money of course, and they'll wonder why no one told them.....because they are horrible people, that's why! Feels good not to bother because all they ever did was disappoint me and him by never showing up or showing concern anyway!
You just take care of hubby
You just take care of hubby and yourself! I hope he's feeling better!
~ Moon
If the skids took time to
If the skids took time to call DH regularly, maybe they would know. SD would never call me about anything that was earth shattering. And I don't feel I owe it to her either. It goes both ways.
be there for you dh! he
be there for you dh! he needs you first and foremost.
Past behavior is an
Past behavior is an indication of future behavior. If skids didn't get off their buttock to see dh in the hospital in the past they most likely won't bother now.
Take care of yourself and your dh.
Thanks everyone. I feel zero
Thanks everyone. I feel zero obligation to tells them. This is not life threatening. If it were I'd have someone let them know, not that they'd care. I really don't think they'd expect me to tell them anyway. And DH is perfectly capable of telling them. Let me give you an example....
When DH WAS life threatening sick and I told SS26 he should be there he said "what do you want me to do, sit there while he's sleeping, why!" And re my house. I've thought of that. I have a security system and neighbors watching out. Plus, i have family coming today. Thanks everyone.
Plus, I did let DH sister
Plus, I did let DH sister know, she can tell them if she wishes.
Ps....tog can I ask way type
Ps....tog can I ask way type of transplant your DH had? Glad it's going well!!
HOpe your DH is OK. TAke
HOpe your DH is OK. TAke care of yourself and DH. If the skids treat you like you are not part of the family - then right back at ya. It is not your responsibility to contact them.
When my DH was injured last year - SD found out before I and didn't bother to inform me either. So in future, if something happens to DH I won't be bothered to tell her either.
They don't get to pick and chose when we should be part of the "family".
Take care Ruby
Oh Ruby, I hope it is
Oh Ruby,
I hope it is something simple like a virus or med tweaking and nothing major like rejection and he feels better soon! My husband freaks out every time. Make sure you rest and eat some decent non hospital food.
The 3 times my hubby has been
The 3 times my hubby has been hospitalized, I left it up to him. Only the most recent stay did he want to tell anyone in his family and even then, he told them he wanted NO visitors.
I do understand where you are coming from, the hospital is no place for all of the drama that some people can cause.
I hope your DH will be okay and able to go home soon.
Thank you for your kind words
Thank you for your kind words everyone. DH came home today! They think they have a handle on things so he will have labs in a few days to be sure. I had to work this morning so told him I'd pick him up around 1pm, he was being released around 11. He didn't want to wait so he actually asked SD to pick him up and she did! Wow, about time she did something decent for her daddy, she is his little princess after all!
Tog....that's great. My hubby
Tog....that's great. My hubby a liver on 8/11/13. Been quite a roller coaster but I'm beyond grateful that he's here. So grateful to our donor. My best to your hubby.
I'm happy that hubby is home!
I'm happy that hubby is home! SD helped out, too!
~ Moon
Glad that he is home and SD
Glad that he is home and SD picked him.
Hi OP. I think that you
Hi OP. I think that you should let at least one of them know what is going on with your DH, their father and ask that she let the others know. That you just want them to be aware. Many families do patch up things when a medical emergency happens etc.
Even though it would scare me to death to do this with my Twit, I would, but only after I knew I had my house secure.
My DH was perfectly capable
My DH was perfectly capable of calling them himself. I would only notify them if it were life threatening and even then I'd do it thru another party. These creatures do not deserve my consideration. I owe them nothing after what they've done
In our case the realationship
In our case the realationship fell apart over their fathers serious illness. SS used it as an opportunity to steak $4600 from us while dad was in a coma and SD came to see him nice and never bothered with him at all.