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Twit Called - Yup She Wanted Something and

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I told her nope, can't do.

Twit called earlier this evening. Seems she is out of the area and needs someone to go let her dogs out and drive the Drunkie to work. DH was not available, out walking our dog, and the message went to the answering machine.

When I heard her, and her request I couldn't help but pick up the phone and tell her sorry....can't do. Oh she at first pleaded nicely and when I held my ground THEN started to get nasty. Told her DH and I both had very bad colds and weren't going anywhere much less run after her dogs and Drunkie. I also told her that she should call one of those great "friends" that she says always agree with her about how nasty and mean I am. At that I hung up. Wouldn't have gone off about her "friends" except that she got mean with me. Oh, the Drunkie will get fired if he doesn't show up. Too bad, not our problem.

The phone rang again and a nasty Twit was quite put out with me. Oh, the things she said. I have left those on the answering machine (I never answered that call, just let it go to the machine). How, according to her, Family should matter and she has this "emergency" etc.

Funny, the only time family ever matters to Twit is when she wants something. When DH came in I told him about the call and what I said left off the part about her "friends". He just said that he isn't going out or driving any where. We both really do have terrible colds. In fact, DH said that she obviously knew she was going to be late so she should have made other plans or just gotten herself back home in time.

Couldn't help but say that she called like this to put us on the spot so we couldn't say no. She found out otherwise.

Outside of the time she called for her brother's address, we haven't heard at all from her since she brought over the chicken thighs. No one inquiry as to how we were surviving the winter snow storms and bad weather, nothing. The last storm was pretty bad with a wet, heavy snow. DH is in his mid 70's so snow shoveling is hard and the snow blower doesn't do well with that heavy, wet snow. Thankfully, we have some very nice neighbors.

As I say, Twit certainly has gall.

DH listened to the rant on the machine, shook his head and erased it.

Twit doesn't give up easy. She called a third time. I just reached up, when she identified herself on the machine, picked up the phone and then put it down terminating her call. Didn't want to hear it. Neither did DH.

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DH is grumbling that she KNEW she was going to be late or delayed or whatever and rather than calling earlier and taking a risk of us saying NO, she would just wait and put us on the spot. As a manipulator she figured she would get what she wanted. Surprise.

Hopefully she will get the idea and leave us alone.

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Yeah, amazing isn't it. Had to listen to her tripe when she came by with these about how she would have bought a whole chicken but it was over $14.00! What a liar. Oh, poor Twit, cheap chicken thighs that she could scarcely afford. Let's see, a 4-5 lb. chicken is never going to cost what, almost $3.00 a lb.? She must think we are fools but then she is, shall we say, quite strange in her thinking.

When we moved down here and I was unpacking things, she asked about something....where it came from. I told her I had found it years and years back, long before meeting her father...just a way of saying it had been around for long awhile. Twit? She broke down in tears bawling to DH that I had just accused her of claiming it was hers! Honestly, I have no idea how she ever reached that conclusion because no such thing was ever said. So you can see how one feels like one has to walk on egg shells around her....one never knows when she will go off on a pity jag.

Personally, I think she was hoping I would offer it to her to make her feel better. But that is how she operates. Funny thing, DH wasn't in the room when I said that, but she went running to him with her tripe. Guess it was an earlier version of the I called her a liar nonsense she likes to spout.

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She really thinks she is a sly one, doesn't she? Thinking that she would leave your DH with no choice but to do her bidding.

Colds or no colds, the answer is NO.

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Exactly. Point made here is that she wouldn't give a ratz arse if one of us was on our death bed as long as she got what she wanted.

Yes, we both have colds. Not only that, it is about 9+ miles to Twit's and THEN another 30+ miles to where Drunkie works. Over 90 miles round trip! That takes a big chunk of time. And, neither DH and I drive at night. He can't and I don't like to. Also, why the heck should we go out of our way for someone who won't even bother to say thank you.

Trust me, once she got her foot in the door there would be more and more "requests". She thinks he is clever.

Regarding the dogs....Drunkie is there, why doesn't he get off his butt and go out and walk them?

Also, now that she is out of luck with out she can cry and complain about how mistreated she is by her father and step mother....boo hoo hoo. That is how she operates.

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Okay, Twit doesn't quit. She called a few minutes ago and cried to DH. Guess she is on her way home from one of her pot and pan group meetings.

She laid into DH and he told her flat out that she should get the Drunkie court date over with so that he might be able to get a hardship license. Now, while she delays and delays, the court won't give the Drunkie a hardship license until he shows he has insurance. And no insurance company will take him because he doesn't have a license! Ummm, that means, Twit, no one wants him to drive!

DH had the call on speaker so I got to hear it all! All the crying about how it's not fair about Drunkie, no one loves her, etc. Her husband is working late so he can't do it, what is she suppose to do? DH told her to get home on time.

He asked her if she was on the cell while driving and she was. DH told her that was stupid. He is sorry she has all these problems that she is always crying about but she has to do something to take care of them not just cry about how bad she has it. He told her about his cold and reminded her that he can't drive at night. Right away it was, well why can't SDM. DH, and get this folks, told her she was delusional if she thought I was going to go out of my way for her after what she said to me and how she has been acting. This brought more tears and cries of how I supposedly called her a liar (which I never did), and since I did that I OWE it to her if I want her to forgive me! [Folks, you just can't make this stuff up....she is nutz to say the least]

DH told her to pull of to the side of the road and compose herself. He also told her that she might want to call the Drunkie, since he is home, and have him take her dogs out....he is right there. And to drive the rest of the way home safely.

That was pretty much the end of the call. All I can way is WOW!!!

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keepitsimple - Yup, she's female. Amazing isn't it. This is her way of thinking. One thing about her is that one cannot believe the crazy stuff that she spouts and expects one to believe. Things like many grocery stores raise their own fish. Yep, she doesn't know the difference between a fish raising operation and a grocery store that has tanks that they keep the already caught fish in until they sell them....like those tanks that they hold lobsters in at fresh sea food restaurants.

Don't underestimate her. She can and does quickly come up with a mean and cutting comment mean to wound the moment she feels the slightest bit ignored or threatened.

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notasm - I agree with you. I enjoy doing things for people, but not for obnoxious, entitled people.

I really want absolutely nothing to do with her. That she would forgive me nonsense is just that nonsense. She never forgives any one....she just wants her way.

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" I also told her that she should call one of those great "friends" that she says always agree with her about how nasty and mean I am." OK, so where ARE they? Why isn't she calling them? Have to give it to your DH for telling her that she was delusional if she thought you were going to help her after what she's done to you. She sure wasn't helping herself by re-starting the 'liar' accusation again. You handled this whole thing so well! Hopefully, she will get REAL mad at you and DH, and decide to shun you for a long while - if you're lucky.

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Sandye - The truth IMHO is that Twit has no one she can depend on....no even the Drunkie who lives with her. She can't even depend on him to take her dogs out. I have come to the conclusion that when she was selling DH on moving down here, so she could help us out as we aged, etc., she wasn't thinking about us at all, but about what we could do for HER.

Thank you for your comments. I do try, and I do try hard. The liar accusation, IMHO, is to make me want to do something for her. Not that I believe anything would make her be nice and decent to me....she doesn't know how. Crazy is crazy, what can I say.

Sandye, where her brother was having that serious surgery she was bragging about how SHE had a network of friends that would come help her out, etc. That was delusional because she has no one as can been seen by how often she tries to get us to take care of her dogs, Drunkie, house, etc.

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Keep in mind Sandye, that her strategy is to try to make me feel like I wronged her and to get DH to back her up. Heck, it worked for her in the past...the ole Twit pity party which is followed by a rage of pity when she doesn't get her way. Believe me, you don't want to ever have to deal with this because it is totally strange and confusing.

She is still not getting it that her prime tactic is not working with DH now.

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SDM, you truly have the patience of Job! She keeps doing the same thing over and over and over! And she has still hasn't gotten it. It sounds like 'Ground Hog Day'! This happens with brain injuries. Did she hurt her head when she was a kid?

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-------This happens with brain injuries. Did she hurt her head when she was a kid?-----

You know Sandye, I don't know about that. DH has told me several times she has "problems" but never expounds on it. Once he said she has good reason to have problems with her BM. Don't know. All I know is that she lived with the BM after they divorced years ago until she was about 16, and then, she came to live with him. Something about how she didn't get along with the BM. But I am wondering now if the BM couldn't deal with Twit whatever she is or what her problems are.

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Catlettus - Because she is delusional. She got caught by DH when she spouted all those mean things at me in front of him. He called her on it (that was when he told me that he had no problem if I didn't like her and wanted no more to do with her). With Twit's mental problems she can, and never does, do anything wrong. It is always your fault that made her say something nasty to you etc.

One thing I can say is that whenever DH talks to her he always tells her she needs to straighten out thinks with me. That is when she goes ballistic with the I called her a liar nonsense. DH knows it is nonsense. He has told me, and I am certain he has told her, that I did no such thing. Of course, according to Twit, I did it when no one was around to hear it. What tripe.

Of course, sadly, in Twit's sick mind she probably believes this to be true now. As I said....delusional.

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Forgive me, but the whole situation is so ridiculous! A middle-aged woman blubbering because senior citizens won't go out on a snowy night to drive her adult son some place he needs to be. All of Twit's mental problems aside, whatever is wrong with Drunkie that he needs his momma to manage his life for him? Isn't he an adult?? Shouldn't he know that the dogs he lives with need to be let ouside regularly? Can he not pick up a phone & call a friend for a ride? He should be shoveling snow for his grandparents, not sucking his thumb.

I am so mad at these people for you. Everyone in Twit's household must have mental deficits, including her ever-absent spouse. I bet you can't wait for spring so you can list your home and move far away from the insanity that is Twit.

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Exjuliemccoy - yes, it is ridiculous. Twit just turned 50, the Drunkie is 23+. I agree with you about Drunkie letting the dogs out, but what can I say. Good point, Drunkie may have some drinking buddy that can come and give him a ride to where ever he needs to be.

About what you said about the whole Twit household - you have a valid point. Twit RULES them all, runs their lives. When she was here that time in January, she made the proud statement that she thinks of her "babies" as all being 8 years old! I found that very telling in a lot of ways. The youngest is 23+ and the oldest is over 30. Even her DH, who is a nice guy, she rules. Heck, when they drive somewhere SHE does all the driving! It is a control thing.

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As I said, Sally, Twit is only concerned for Twit. Trust me, if DH or I did go and something happened she would feel no remorse. Remember, it is NEVER her fault for anything.

The reason I get concerned when she pops up is because she scares me. Things she has both done and said about how she has treated others are disturbing. I find myself feeling I have to watch my back etc.

DH finally noticed how I get when he told me she was stopping by that day in January...to bring us the chicken thighs. He said I physically tightened up, going on guard. I told him that Twit scares me. He still tells me that I have nothing to worry about. I am not that sure.

Yes, I know, that seems extreme, but it is the feeling I get from her. In all my years I have never had any one make me feel that uncomfortable to be around.

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Got the final "edict" today....DH has to have a knee replacement. Darn, there go the plans on putting the house on the market right now. He has been having problems and pain with it for months and it got worse with the heavy snow shoveling. The shots that use to help him are doing nothing so up to the surgery.

Bummer, makes me sad because I had an agent out last week and was in the process of interviewing agents and getting comparables.

He is being scheduled to meet with the surgeon to set things up.

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And DH heard from Twit. Seems the longest she can stay away is about 2 weeks before she needs a "fix".

Now, everything is A okay with Drunkie. She is giving him his lawyer bills to pay, told him to look for his own insurance - she isn't going to call around for quotes for him, etc. Isn't she being great? Oh, she is oh so tired of dealing with the Drunkie and the DUI. But, and here is the interesting point. The court date is this week and, as we can all guess, she had to have it postponed AGAIN because she is not going to be in town! Drunkie is still drinking, but now with Twit approval.

After DH told me all this, and about how he is glad she is finally giving Drunkie responsibility, wasn't that great. I couldn't help thinking he was being very easily fooled by her or was it just wishful thinking.

Me, my thought was that by once again cancelling the court date she is doing nothing but keeping her drama with Drunkie going. She wasn't getting the adoration and attention she needed the last time she called DH and he told her to get it over with; so now she is on a new line looking for that adulation from Daddy.

What I said was, that's nice, but wouldn't it be better for her to stay home, cancel her running around (once again her and her hubby just have to get away as she is so stressed from dealing with all the Drunkie stuff). She is just putting off the inevitable, avoiding. And, get this....DH agreed.

I also think that she is afraid that Drunkie will be facing the music, finally, for his drinking. DUI is a felony with a big $10,000 fine! Twit has been going for a misdemeanor of reckless driving...pushing her lawyer to get it and the jerk (her words) hasn't come through. The DA made his offer, and it was a decent one involving no prision time, but parole for a year and he isn't backing down. This will be terrible for her because it will be in the paper and how could Drunkie do this to her!

Meanwhile, at our house DH is scheduled for knee surgery the week after Easter. He has said nothing to her about it. But then she never asks how he is doing, just cries about her problems....poor Twit.

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Hahaha - Just have to post these folks. Seems that last week when Twit called her father and bragged to him about how they had to blow off another Drunkie court date because they, she, just had to get away, THAT was all BS. We ran into her Friday night at an auction! Apparently, as she told DH then, she said that to the lawyer JUST to get the case postponed again....she feels the longer it goes the longer Drunkie doesn't have to face the music or pay the fines. As DH said to me, she also lied to him about it. And this is the cretin that calls me a liar for something I never did or said!

I wasn't surprised because she didn't bring up her dogs to him. Generally, if she doesn't ask him about us dog sitting, she moans about how much she would have to spent to board them. Knew something was up right away there.

AND, DH didn't say anything to her about his upcoming knee surgery this week. I asked him at brunch today what he wants me to do in regard to that, and he said - do nothing. Evidently he has noted that never once has she asked him about how he is doing or feeling, etc. He said that he knew if something were to happen and things take a wrong turn (heaven forbid) I would call all of them and hope they could be there in time. Other than that, he said to just continue to leave her alone. Fine with me.

But, I will be having my neighbors keep a check on the house while I am at the hospital with him. As scary as that cretin is, I just don't trust her. Luckily, the hospital is not far away from us.