I wear Mack's ear plugs and I'm a light sleeper. Tummy sleeper, too! But maybe the gun shooting ear muffs will be my next thing lol!

BM died 2 years ago. I have SD19 away at college, but such an enabled "joy" when she's here. I have SD13 who is going on about 7yrs old, who declared she wanted to be a boy last August.

Yup.

ETA: No shower. LOL I went downstairs and told SD13 to take off SDog's pee diaper and I let the dogs out. I said to her, "You should probably look at the clock." I get the, "Oh!" because it's her bedtime and she moves like a slug.

I didn't take her to or from GS tonight, I made DH arrange it. The science mom is going to pick her up tomorrow and DH got confirmation of that a little while ago. SD13 has started leaving her epipen at home, and no, she didn't shower tonight. Check my bookmarks and read The Chore List from last fall, it lasted from Sept - Nov. No one cares, so why should I?

Funny, someone used my hair dryer today. SD13 has one right under her sink, she's used it 1x since I've known her. I wonder if DH had to straighten her rooster hair today? It's a very short boy cut and SD13 gets bedhead that sticks straight up. She can't take care of herself for shit. I can't imagine that SD13 showered this morning, she never showers in the morning, always at night, and only when you remind her right in that moment (which I didn't do tonight when she got home). She is supposed to shower every other day. Last shower was Saturday night. She's petite and I don't get close enough to smell her. When I do, she smells like an old sock or dirty sheets, no B.O.

Yep later tomorrow evening, with the science thing, she'll be out almost until her bedtime, so no chance in hell for a shower. She'll be nice and ripe come Wednesday morning.

I'm glad she knows it all already. Duuuuhhhhh-uuuhhhh.... I just give up.

SMH

~ Moon

Rags it's GS Cookie season, so I think my dinner and bedtime insulin were stacked. Too much in the system! TY tho for the thought, I'll look into this.

And ultimately run out of cookies at some point. Good thing I don't drink! Lol

Was late getting home due to slow traffic, so I didn't see SD13 before she went to her science fair. No shower since Saturday......? That's my bet. I am letting the greasy hair fester so someone gives her a hard time. SD13 is always home, no friends in the neighborhood to play with, no one visits (thank God). No one to tell her she could stand to take a shower already. DH will be home Thursday night, so we'll see. By then it will be 5 nights, ugh.

I feel a little embarrassed that a classmate's mom gave SD13 a ride tonight and she prob hasn't showered. I just keep reminding myself it's not a reflection on me, it's a reflection on SD13 and DH.

~ Moon

OMG just texted with DH who is still out of town. HE used my hair dryer yesterday morning lol! He is BALD but said he shaved and dried up his goatee with the hair dryer.

SD13 hasn't showered since Saturday and SALLY I am keeping quiet. OMFG

~ Moon

Came home today and was talking with SD13 some. Her group placed in the Tech Fair and they go to States in a few months. After a little while she proclaimed, "I'm going to shower tonight." I looked at her and smiled, gently said I was glad she remembered bec it's been since Saturday. I told her I even reminded her early Monday evening but when she came back from Scouts she must had forgotten? "Oh, I had an essay to work on." I replied, "No you had a shower to take and you didn't do it. I didn't remind you because I wanted you to remember on your own? You know who's going to remind you next time? (Still being gentle with her....) The kid that sits behind you in class and makes fun of your greasy hair."

I explained that she would be in HS next year and kids her age will pick on others about anything, being pretty, ugly, smart or stupid. The last thing I wanted was for her to be picked on for not taking a shower, and I told her she needed to remember on her own. I told her she needs to shower again Thursday ad get back on her regular schedule. How hard is it? I told her she was lucky she didn't stink yet, but she needs to take care of her greasy hair and clean up on a regular basis.

SD13 will always tell me how great she is at everything, and I have all of the facts right between my two ears. Well, I guess I can let her be happy in her fantasy world until HS starts. Studying and hygiene will take on an entirely different role.

~ Moon

Where to begin? The topic for the evening is poop, so if it's TMI, don't read......LOL

I take the dogs downstairs last night to go out at bedtime. There is good crap (easy clean up), urine on the carpet and bad crap (messy clean up=mud) from the pups in the basement. I say "Shit happens," and start to clean it up. I ask SD13 to turn on a light 6 feet from me while I make sure the pups don't step in the mess, and she walks clear around the basement rather than six feet next to me to turn it on. Patience was wearing thin at the end of a long day with no sleep, and I asked her why she took the long way. You all know the answer, right? Right. Then I ask her to get four items from the kitchen that I need to clean with. She brings back two. You all know why, right? Right. I ask why she didn't notice all of this filth while she was playing down here? You STers know the answer to that one, right? Right.

SD13 takes a paper towel and dabs at the urine on the berber carpet with about as much force as a woman powdering her nose. SD you need to put on shoes and step on the shamwow to absorb the urine from the carpet, a paper towel won't work. I go throw something out and come back, she is still dabbing at the carpet. I repeat, "SD13 you need to put on SHOES and put your weight on the shamwow to even begin to get the urine up." You know what the reply was both times, right? Right. (For those of you who haven't played along before, the answer was Duuuuuuhhhhh-uhhhhhhh or something to that effect.)

I finally send SD13 upstairs because she is getting nothing done. I have her take SDog with her so he doesn't pee anywhere and I go to the basement sink. Barbie Jeep is in the bathroom, dolls scattered around. SD13 has declared that she is a boy now, so I made a mental note of the toys. I go back to scrubbing and spraying and rinsing the carpet of dog mess and finally get up to bed at 930pm. I have five dogs and when there is snow outside, they sometimes mess in the house. I have forever asked SD13 to be our eyes in the basement and she literally, say it with me "Doesn't notice shit." Finally I get to sleep.

Dogs were weird last night, little one woke me up 2x btwn 9:30 and 11:30pm. Then the other one wouldn't come in at 11:30pm so I had to wait on her. Finally, back to bed. Woke up to snow this morning and debated whether or not to go in to work today. SD13's alarm went off and she got dressed. I didn't tell her about the two hour delay she had. I got her downstairs to help with SDog. My schedule is all out of whack and I eat breakfast at home before I go. My insulin is kicking in and I have to wee a few times, I would normally be at work before 7am, but decided to go in later due to messy roads. I never use the powder room on the main floor because it has an overuse injury at this point. It is DH's throne, he uses it 90% of the time and I just go upstairs to have my privacy. SD13 also uses the powder room on the main floor and doesn't like to shower so that's the main reason I don't go in there.

Well, silly me. I open the powder room door to empty out really quick before I start the 90-minute crawl to work in the snow. It's humid and smells rank in there because the door was shut all of the way. I always ask SD13 to leave the door open a crack, DH asks her, too, but she shut it all the way last night. It still smelled of shit this morning, but ok, it's a bathroom and I cleaned up dog shit the night before, I can handle it, shit happens.

I turn on the light and pull the door shut behind me. Explosive diarrhea stuck on the sides of the bowl and hardly any water in the toilet because it's clogged and needed a second flush. Don't bother looking behind your ass, SD13, because no one else uses this bathroom. (sarcasm anyone?) I call upstairs to her and she says she is on the toilet lol in her bathroom. I ask her to come out asap. She walks down the stairs towards me and I ask if she used the powder room last night? Duh-uuhh....Have you been sick, is your stomach ok? Duuhhh-uhhhh...... Have you used the powder room in the past TWO days? Well, uhhhhh, yeeaaahhhh.

I went off on her! I went OFF on her! "I have never seen anything so disgusting in all of my LIFE! Can't you LOOK behind yourself after you use the toilet like that? GET IN THERE and clean it NOW! Use the Clorox. Clean the bowl. Put the seat up and clean UNDER the seat, clean the TOP of the seat (this next one was funny....lol) Clean where your butthole SITS on the back of the seat!!!!!! Flush it a few times! YOU ARE NOT TO USE THIS BATHROOM ANYMORE!!!"

(Sorry long vent about all KINDS of shit tonight lol.....) I get my bags and I shouldn't have said this part but I did, "Grow UP already, SD13! Just GROW UP ALREADY! " She is kneeling on the floor into the toilet scrubbing. I don't think she even got the Clorox. She's not good at following directions. I called from the kitchen, "YOU are NOT to use that bathroom anymore! Do you understand me??"

::crickets::

"Do you understand ME?" I hear a grunt from her general direction. So, I grunted back and went out the door to work. POS SD13 is a 5-foot tall infant. She has regressed so much and has NO common sense. I could handle that if thats all it was, but the HYGIENE and being around others unwashed and leaving toilets splattered with crap, well it just sent me over the edge. I was so happy to get to work today. Our county actually closed the schools and I didn't even call home to give her the update. No way. I was livid with the filth I had seen. I texted DH who was still out of town and told him we were having a meeting with SD13 this weekend. Fun and games is over with this skid. I told DH that her hygiene DISGUSTS me and HE needs to figure it out.

Someone brought donuts to work and I had TWO. I felt a little better after that!

Thanks for the vent. DH just pulled up. I won't even talk to SD13 tonight. Who cares anymore?

~ Moon

No shit, dtzy? Breathe Rights? He tried them years ago but maybe that shit is worth a try again. This crap with him snoring is driving me batshit crazy. This shit has gotta give. Maybe those strips are the SHIT!

LMAO!

~ Moon

No one was here when I got home so I had to change SDog's diaper. He played keep away in the bsmt and I found another old turd down there from the pups. They don't like to poop in the snow. So, I go into the bsmt bathroom, which I was in the other night after cleaning up dog poo, and the bowl was NOT clean. Since I told SD13 she couldn't use the powder room, she goes down to the basement toilet. It was CLEAN two nights ago. Now it has shit all over the inside of the rim, so SD13 can't even wipe herself properly.

My life has been full of shit lately! LOL

DH just called on his drive home and I told him about the poop in the basement bathroom that wasn't there two nights ago. He said he had the toilet talk about the powder room this very morning, and tonight when she gets home he'll have it with her again. I told him to go down there and actually LOOK at the filth a 13yo can leave behind. I told him she needs to LOOK IN THE BOWL before she exits the area. SD13 will be home in about 30 minutes.

Sally, good idea about locking the door to the bathroom. I think I will lock the one in the basement, so SD13 will have to go up two flights of stairs and pass the powder room on the way. I can't lock the powder room, DH beelines to it after his drive home, and fumbling with a key would piss him off. But maybe I'll ask him about it.

I can't believe how much of a space cadet, juvenile, naive skid SD13 is turning out to be!! I know it's hormones and because she's hit puberty, but a lot of it is because DH has never given either SD many boundaries. I told him on the phone today that "I am taking my house back, so get ready." I explained that he and I needed to sit down and talk about what we want and need for our home to run smoothly. I think skeeter posted that in an other blog someone started, so thank you, skeeter! I told him that SD19 will have to work 40 hours a week this summer and not lounge around saying work is too stressful. I also told him that she is only here 4 months out of the year and she needs to conform to the HOUSE schedule, not us to hers, i.e. no staying out late when I have to get up early the next day.

I told DH SD19 needs to contribute to this house that she stays in for FREE or she can go stay in her car, for all I care. I asked if SD19 had any plans to raise the bar this summer with employment or was she going to work fast food for $7.75 an hour forever? He said he needed to have a sit-down with her and see which direction she is headed in.

DH is getting on board. I am excelling at work. I am doing pretty good!

~ Moon

I guess she doesn't think anything matters. SD13 has become extremely juvenile and aloof. I just don't get it. She doesn't pay attention to anything so a lot goes unnoticed. I have told DH that I think it's ridiculous for he and I (mostly ME) to "press Play" whenever she needs to do something.

I am done, BUT....if it affects my home, I am calling tribal council. She will be minimized down to certain areas of the house with restrictions. Since the summer, she is
1) Not allowed to take any food out of the kitchen
2) Not allowed to use the stove
3) Not allowed to use the powder room
4) Not allowed to use the basement bathroom
5) Has to do her laundry on Friday or wait until the following week.

I told her the other day if she went forever without taking a shower again, that she would be punished. Should I just ignore it, or have DH punish her, or.....? She is really sliding down into oblivion. I think school gave her the kool aid. She has no skills anymore. She was funny and sharp as a tack when she was 10. Now it's all gone to......SHIT. Is this just a great act she's putting on? Is this her subconscious acting out and she doesn't even realize it? WTF? I want her to go to finishing school and learn some common sense and self-respect.

~ Moon

Thanks for the suggestion, forever....I looked into the book and the chapters are all WAY beyond SD13. The character Cindy who is age 14 is the closest. I think it said she wasn't maturing physically, intellectually, emotionally or socially. That is how SD13 has become. She acts 7 years old. She had the nerve to tell DH and I at dinner tonight that "she would be good" when DH goes out of town again this week. I shot her a burning glare across the table and told her she acted like a little kid. She tried to play cute and said she did NOT act 7. I stared her down again and told her I had had a "shitty" week with her. She shut up and just looked blankly at me. I told her the shit mess that she left in two different bathrooms in as many days was no way for a 13yo to behave. DH just sat there eating his dinner not saying a word. I know it hurts his feelings when I talk to SD13 that way, but she is extremely immature and clueless! The phone rang and SD13 turned around to answer it quickly. While it was still ringing, DH asked her to hand it to him. She didn't, just looked goofy with a grin on her face like it was some game. Phone is still ringing in SD13's hand, so I barked at her from across the table. "Your father just told you to give him the phone so hand it to him! Don't just sit there! Can't you do as you're told?!"

Aw then she gave the phone to DH and started sulking a little at the table. I wanted to remind her right there, that the phone was a perfect example of her going backwards and not listening or doing what she's told. She just doesn't think it matters!

I had the worst argument of my life with DH in the mall parking lot today. I ripped him a new one which I have never done. I'll have to put it in another blog. I don't even know where to start.....

~ Moon