I'll start off by saying adult SD (20) is a wreak. I've known her since she was four years old and I probably don't have to go into what she's like. It sounds like you guys already know the whole manipulative, evil, her family thinks she's the best step kid issue most of you seem to have.

I have always been indifferent to her and she has been in different to me. It doesn't bother either of us. We can be in the same room not talk to each other and just seem like everything is fine. Her temperament is not an issue.never has been.

Now this is not to say she's been the best kid. Like I said she's manipulative mostly towards her father ( my DH)
He has always been so blind to it and I have ignored it, however today I decided to stick to my guns and now he's blaming me.

The argument: SD is on welfare. Now I have nothing against people who need welfare, such as the elderly and disabled, however she is perfectly capable of working . To be honest she's 20 years old and she has never had a job. I got her jobs and she's quit before the first day, saying she doesn't have to work, daddy will pay her way .in case your wondering , her mother who she lives with is also on welfare. She is 39 years old and has never worked a day in her life either.

Now with this said I find and stepdaughter's wallet not one but five credit cards. None with her name on it. I ask her what's up with the credit cards since she's on welfare and shouldnt have them ( I don't mention that her name is not on any of them. Only because I want to see what she'll say.) She says to me well welfare doesn't pay me enough so I just Google peoples names and SS numbers and get different credit cards.

Great she's into credit card fraud. To be honest not very surprising.

I tell DH and want to know what he says to me? Well what would you do if you had to go on welfare? To him which I replied I would not go on welfare I would get a job. I've worked ever since I was 14.

I finally say I've had enough I packed up a few things and our four-year-old son and I've taken him to my mothers house. I said when she leaves your family (us)will come back home. Lucky we only have to see her once every two months as she lives four hours away. Again only comes to ask for money. When my husband says no she just steals it. I'll get to that in another post.

I say to my husband I'm basically cutting her off. Every time she comes over our son and I will stay at my parents house until she leaves. He thinks I'm being unreasonable. I just don't want to be around that girl. Nor do I want my son around criminals. How do I tell my husband he's an idiot? I honestly feel I am doing him a favor by not being there. Because I swear the next time I see her I'm going to slap her in the face and kick her out the door. ( not literally but you get the point LOL)
Help?
Thanks all