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I just said I disengaged.I just said I was trying. Why am I so FREAKING controling. This isn't about sd. ITS ME!

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Submitted by jstorie on Thu, 01/29/2015 - 4:04pm

Okay,

Sd14 has an agenda to get filled out i usually look at it to see if she has homework. PROBLEM 1. NOT MY PROBLEM.
I asked she was hateful I said whatever. and said SHUT UP. untill she finally stopped arguing with me.
This morning I asked DH if he looked at her agenda. Surprise guess who didn't PROBLEM 2. NOT MY PROBLEM.
He is talking to her about homework (she lied to me said she didn't have any PROMBLEM 3. NOT MY PROBLEM.)
I made her do it (Not my problem) She threw a fit pulling hair ploppin her ass down (NOT MY PROBLEM)
She threw the paper crumpled it up, I still made her do it. she screamed at me saying i need to f* give up no matter what she will still move to the next grade they don't hold people back! WHY DO I CARE! two mins it took her so why was i suprised when i got an email from the teacher saying she did not do the assignment. so i told the teacher about it. And said I saw her write down the seven things. i can do my best to make her do the homework which is not an easy task. but if i have no idea what it is to be done I can only do so much. AGAIN NOT MY PROBLEM WHY DO I CARE. AND WHY DOES DH NOT GIVE A SHIT. This child is 14. no bio mother to go live with. has lived with and aunt and her grandparents and got kicked out of both places.

anyone else have this problem.

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Submitted by misSTEP on Thu, 01/29/2015 - 4:18pm

It's hard to watch a child willfully trash their lives like that and feel like you are the only one who cares.

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Submitted by furkidsforme on Thu, 01/29/2015 - 4:31pm

Stop caring more than DH does. He gets to avoid parenting because you do it for him, so stop. For awhile he will try to provoke you to "change back!" by failing to do his duty. But hold to your guns, and most likely he will finally step to the plate. Or, he won't and she fails. Still, not your problem.