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One of the saddest SM/Skids stories I've ever heard... and probably common.

HungryEyes's picture

I was talking to another manager who had a few days off this week here in the office. She's salt-of-the-Earth and wonderful. She was telling me about the funeral so had last weekend.

The man who died is a neighbor of hers for 20 years or so. My friend had been helping take care of him and his wife (She's early signs of dementia at 80 and he was 85.) They would go and visit them each night and make sure they had groceries or see if they needed anything.

The man was a decorated war veteran and celebrated former police chief of a small town close to us. The funeral was huge and the man had planned his details very carefully for exactly how he wanted it.

Insert the kids who show up in town for the funeral. They see that their father and their step mom have been taken care of my by my friend. They had known each other for years but they sit down and talk to her for a bit and let my friend know they were simply 'waiting for step mom to die' because now that he wasn't around to cook dinner for her as her mind goes, she certainly wouldn't live long enough to get back all they were going to contest from their father's will. Yes. They are contesting the will, of course, because and I quote 'She was an evil step mother who never cared about anyone but herself.'

She was married to this man since she was 23 years old and he was 28. OVER 50 years!

They literally said 'She won't remember to eat herself so she'll die soon and we'll get the tons of money that will be waiting on us.' Practically laughing about it. My friend was so upset.

So she promised the kids, 'I am going to have my husband (He's retired) take your SM breakfast every day. And go down to see her at lunch, every single day. And we'll take our dinner down each night and eat with her. We will see that her bills get paid and that she'll go to each and every Doctors appointment. We took care of your Dad and we are certainly going to take care of her the same.' That really shut them up.

So what did they do before leaving town? They went on a shopping spree with credit cards and spent a lot of money. Called all the banks to see who, if anyone, would let them take money out with a POA which I don't believe any of them did, my friend said. My friend didn't know about the financials but she said skids bragged to her husband that they'd spent 2500 in 3 days on a credit card. Step Mom is too sad and a little far gone to do anything at this point.

Even after 50 freaking years... they just can't wait for her to die already!

I called my husband right away to make sure I'm the beneficiary on all his policies and retirement and he assured me I was and that he'd never even had any one else on there.

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Aniki-Moderator's picture

They are absolutely vile creatures. Doubtful it will happen, but I would love to learn that their father left the money in a trust to care for his wife and THEN to a charity because they are such freaking A$$HOLES.

HungryEyes's picture

I hope the same. I hope a man who took such care to plan a funeral would make sure his asshat kids get nothing.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

My Dad had his will set up to care for my mother if he passed first. She had dementia and was literally as helpless as a baby. None of us would ever DREAM of compromising on care for our mother just to have money. Mom passed away 3.5 years ago, so it was never an issue, but still... We could care less if he leaves us a dime.

DaizyDuke's picture

I can't believe what monsters people can turn into over money, when a family member dies. My dad and his wife put together a living trust and went to great lengths to spell out everything that they wants us kids to have.

1. Me (oldest)only child with my mom
2. Son, 2 years younger than me, had with woman he married after my mom
3. Step son (his current wife's son already an adult when they married)
4. Step daughter (his current wife's daughter a teenager when they married)

Dad sent us all a copy of the living trust and I started to read it when I got it and then realized that I just don't care. I could care less what I get, I could care less if I get anything! It was honestly making me feel guilty reading it! I totally understand why they wanted to do it, to avoid problems like you are talking about, but to my knowledge, none of us are monsters out for what we can get when he dies. My 1/2 brother is a decent career military guy. Dad's step son was a military guy and is now very disabled due to shots he received prior to Desert Storm and dad's step daughter is a nice woman, married to a career military guy and I just don't see any of us drooling and snarling and fighting over my dad's possessions. I just don't get how people can do this?? It's sickening!

DaizyDuke's picture

LOL!!!!

My dad's current wife is an absolute love angel! I don't really refer to her as my SM because I never lived with her, and only saw her a couple of times between the ages of 10-20 because they lived in Arizona. But she has never been anything but kind to me.

Now my Step dad? If you asked me when I was a teenager? I would have told you that I hated him and I'm sure he probably hated me. I was a teenage nightmare. (got good grades, had a job, was responsible, BUT I had a mouth and I was a stubborn mule!) However, the minute I moved out? He and I got along just fine! We would go to lunch, go shopping together, I'd come over for dinner etc. When I got married (the first time...the big, stupid pomp and circumstance wedding like Smelly's THAT I PAID FOR) I actually had my Step Dad walk me down the aisle. I talked about it with my Bio dad and he agreed that my step dad was the one who "raised" me and he was totally cool with it.

Yep I was a COD and I survived, didn't use one parent against the other, didn't play any of those stupid games that we have all seen here.. because my parents did not allow it!

Jsmom's picture

Sad thing is if it was Dad's Credit card they used. The stepmom has to pay it off. Pure Evil. I only know this, because I had to pay off a couple of cards of my late husband that I didn't know about. Less than 1K, so I just paid it off. Someone needs to call the credit card companies and see if the charges are after he died. Let them know it is fraud.

AllySkoo's picture

Might be worth talking to the probate lawyer though. If the kids used the cards, and it can be proven that they did, then the credit card payment can be taken out of their inheritance (if any) rather than the SM's.

MarriedaBallessWonder's picture

THIS!

This story made me cry for the step mom. It made me so sick to my stomach I sent an email to my probate attorney so I can discuss our will again. I want to make sure I'm in charge of it all.

I feel so sad for this lady. I hope those adult pieces of shit get prosecuted.

HungryEyes's picture

Thank you for all of the advice - I'm going to speak to my friend before I leave work this afternoon!!

Maria10's picture

That is very sad. I hope my skids don't act that way with anyone.