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BM made false sexual molestation claim against DH

Betrayd's picture

BM put us through a very long CPS investigation by filing a false sexual molestation report against DH. It put our family and reputation through hell. Of course, it has been ruled out now.

My question is - has anyone else been through that, and if so, did you file a civil suit against them, or push the DA to prosecute?

Snowflake's picture

No, but if that were the case it would be the absolute end of visitation until the child was 18, or go to court for absolute sole custody. Any threats of prosecution for something that wasn't done is the most horrid thing I can think of.

She sounds like she is PASing the child to the very extreme, the worst thing you could do IMHO is to engage her. If you have the means I would go for absolute sole custody with supervised visitation. If you don't then she will not stop and you need to have no contact, because she is obviously vindictive and wants to hurt your family.

alittlepinot's picture

BM did this to us to an extent. She didn't call CPS but she insinuated that she was being sexually abused in our home. The second she made the accusation DH called her and told her he was on his way to BM's apartment to pick up SD and take her to the ER so she could be evaluated by a doctor and he would be filing for emergency custody. She very quickly dropped it as she knew it was bogus just looking for attention.

Such a shame that these BM's cant just grow up and be decent civilized human beings. I'm sorry you are going thru that.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Not sexual abuse, but we're in the middle of a CPS investigation now. Supposedly we starved SSociopath15, locked him in his room, and forced him to stay awake all hours of the night as punishment. None of this is even close to true, but the kid is no longer allowed in our home.

In your DH's case, I'd definitely not let the kid back in the home. If he wants to see her, it can be in a public place with witnesses present.

Rags's picture

We have never been through this but for damned sure if I had been disparaged as your DH has been I would file criminal charges and civil suits until I had BM living in a cardboard refrigerator box under the highway overpass and pimping herself out for individual stale French fries from the floor boards of passing cars.

And the kid would never see that toxic wench again until the kid was an adult even if I had to send the kid off to boarding school to keep her away from me and my family.

Grrrrr!!!!!

Betrayd's picture

Yeah we've played nice but I'm so done. DH doesn't want to engage her until the custody trial but she is making our life hell. It's extreme PAS. She hid her and made DH believe SD hated him and didn't want to see him. She consistently violates visitation on top of it. I'm like are you f'ing kidding me!?!? We've been for emergency removal and the judge said no because they hadn't seen each other in a while. This woman has disparaged us to colleagues, friends...she's sick. She's sought out business associates, looked them up and called to tell them DH is a child rapist!!!

I was just wondering what our chances might be if we basically blow every penny we have to fight her...wondering if anyone else has been there done that? SD13 desparately wants to live with us because BM is literally nuts.

JacksGal's picture

Child abuse reports are supposed to be private. Getting the information about the report to do any kind of lawsuit is next to impossible.

That being said, I was successful in getting CPS to release the records of MULTIPLE reports made by my ex to the District Attorney's office. It took 6 reports in a short time frame, the support of the investigator, pediatrician and many pleading letters and phone calls to state and local officials and abuse councils to get this done. It was only because my child became hysterical every time she saw the investigator show up yet again and the attention of a very prominent advocate against child abuse that I got the traction to make this happen. False reporting is a crime, but it is very, very hard to enforce. Unfortunately I don't think you'd be able to get enough attention with one report, especially since many of them are made anonymously and there may not be any information on the reporter to do anything about it.

I feel for you, I've been there.. it sucks. Sad

Betrayd's picture

We actually have her false police report in detail that started it. She basically told the officer in the report she didn't want SD visiting. Do you think that would help? CPS said it could take two years to get the detailed report. We're still waiting :/