Ss13 went from 0 to 100
So ss13 was confronted about the underwear stealing at BMs house. He was also told that we also found some in his room here. He also got in trouble for stealing his Nintendo DS back from our house. We took it away because he is failing 4 classes. BM informed him that he will not be attending basketball anymore.
Ss13 was sent outside to do his chores at BMs house. I guess he took to long and BM went to check on him. He was gone and she called the cops. He got 5 miles from home in the country in 10 degree weather. Bm takes him to the hospitial and they sign him up for 2 weeks of outpaitent therapy for 8 hours a day.
On Friday dH went to pick up ss at the pick up point. Dh harshly tells ss that running away is stupid, stealing will not fly, and called him out on all the wrappers we found in his room. Dh made ss sell 3 of his new DS games to pay for my stole bra and underwear. Ss was pissed.
On Sunday dh went to check ss room and found an orange peel under his pillow, got chewed out for that. Theni. Ss backpack dh found his old iPhone, his beats head phones, a blackberry charger and iPhone head phones. Dh chewed ss out, probably the loudest he has ever yelled at anyone. Ss ran to the door and tried to out on his boots to "runaway". Dh dragged him back to the couch and chewed him out again.
Ss said he wants to run away because he is stresses and he doesn't like all the chores he has to do. Boo woo.
It's odd because ss has never acted out like this and all of a sudden this happened.
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I'm not 100% sure what they
I'm not 100% sure what they offer. I just know they have individual sessions, group sessions,'family sessions and they also do homework. As far as to where would he go, nowhere. I'm pretty sure this was an attention seeking action.
There is so much going on at
There is so much going on at your house. I feel badly for you and I feel badly for the SS --- even if he is acting over-the-top crazy. In my limited experience most kids don't do complete 180 degree turns on behavior. The 'try to runaway to nothing.' The extreme sexualization with panty-stealing ...
Your SS-13's behavior is screaming that something is so wrong in his life. I'd be thinking less of "normal hormones" and more like ... has there been a sexual assault at BM's house or at school or ?
This is what I was thinking.
This is what I was thinking. The change since he was caught out - I was thinking he's mortified and is trying to deflect or avoid dealing with it.
OR he's just being a little shit trying to get out of a bad situation by making himself seem damaged and "on the brink"
You're right, there are some
You're right, there are some kids who more deliberately choose to change their behavior. I'm not a psychologist. It just seems that if a child has never acted this way before, and within a few months goes whack-oh ... there's something much bigger than puberty or COD or blended family issues at play.
It's like all those people who complain that their horse "suddenly, out-of-the-blue, for-no-reason-at-all" began to buck and try to kill the rider. Most horseman snort soda out of their noses when they hear this type of story. The horse was probably relaying distress, irritation and intent long, long before the big event. So, simplistically, I think about children the same way.
OP says that the boy, while perhaps less than an ideal SS, was functional and then he derailed. Either OP. DH and BM missed a busload of signs or there is some catastrophic event ... or drugs ... or ??? No clue, but there must be something and I feel badly for all of them.
Yes, this is what I have been
Yes, this is what I have been telling dh. This is why I think is happening. I work in HR and I see employees do this all the time when they get into trouble. They try to deflect the negativity by playing the woo is me card.
what i dont get is these kids
what i dont get is these kids think running away is going to get them out of doing chores and obligations when really if they actually did get away with running away they would just have to do more work to survive than doing the dreaded dishes or yard work..... My brother tried this twice the first time he was gone 2 day and cops brought him home the second time was a week....he came home himself after realizing it was harder there than at home.... my mom (thought ol bird she was) had a friend at homeless shelter and he had to stay another night and volunteer for breakfast duty that next day. he never did it again, but of course he didn't move out of there house until he was 26.. but that's a different story not related to this.