So she ended up coming and "refused" to bring clothes, pjs or her homework. My fiance told BM sshed have to.wear the.clothes on her back all weekend. I just cant believe this irresponsible disrespectful twit is 14!
HHB is getting there, herself. At least this past weekend was legit...she did have a competition. Weekend before that...too much homework...and before that...didn't feel well. DH will surely try to get HHB to come over again this weekend, as it is a competition-free weekend. I'm sure there will be another excuse...at least...I'm praying for one.
Unfortunately, this is the type of thing that some exes play into with the skids. A parent might say that the skids don't "have to" go if they don't want to. If they are attempting to PAS the skid(s) out, they will come up with ALL SORTS of fun activities to entice the child into saying that they would rather stay home.
oh, BM said right in front of SD at a "counseling" session that she didnt think SD should have to spend the night at her father's house.
she has always said that SD is sooo mature and can make decisions herself. (the court disagreed with her on that one). however, in SD's mind she has all the control and power. Particularly since BOTH of her parents give it to her.
OMG! DH's ex thinks the same way about HHB! "She shouldn't be forced to do anything she doesn't want to do!" Oh, so no wonder she went running to you when DH finally started laying down rules and consequences!
they just dont get that skipping visitation because they "dont wanna" is minor compared to "you need to be home at 11pm" and the response is "i dont wanna" and they come home at 3am, after doing lord only knows what.
my fiance really truly beleives that this attitude and behavior is "typical teenager stuff". in fact, i HIGHLY suspect BM is TELLING Sd14 this as well. Ive seen soem of SD's texts to him. They say things like "im not 6, i dont have to check in with my parents" and "this is typical teen behavior, im a teenager". ALl phrases and thoughts she'd never come up with on her own, just like a year ago when she made the claims of "verbal abuse". again, a term she'd never come up wtih on her own.
i think her mother is encouraging her to be defiant, rude and irresponsible and to "have fun" with her teenage years.
I still remember at the end of last school year, when HHB brought home her class choices for this school year. He handed it to DH and told him she needed it signed, and when he started questioning things about it, HHB's response was something like "You don't need to be concerned with what I'm taking"! Seriously? She also doesn't think she needs to check in or let anyone know when plans change. 15 going on 30 for sure!
But BM doesn't care what classes HHB takes. She doesn't care where she goes or when she will be home. And if HHB doesn't want to come for visits with DH, BM is the last person to force it! Doesn't she understand how this kind of thing is biting her in the ass (i.e., the whole driving without a license incident)?
I sit here thinking...the girl is really setting herself up to have a wonderful life on the pole! I mean, she has adopted a shortened version of her name as what she would rather be called that REALLY sounds like a stripper name. If you ask her, dancing is her life. Now, she is supposedly into girls (which I knew a couple of girls in school who ended up being strippers...they both ended up being bisexual or lesbian because they said that guys were such pigs, and after work, a man was the last thing they wanted to come home to...they said it was a common thing with strippers). She loves wearing her hoochie clothes. I'm betting she can't wait until she turns 18!
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MIne use that NOT to go to
MIne use that NOT to go to their BM's. It makes me sad.
Same here but they were too
Same here but they were too young to make the decision themselves. They ended up crying until she brought them back home.
Once again visitation is not
Once again visitation is not discretionary for a kid. It gets its ass in the transportation or it gets the belt again.
IMHO of course.
So she ended up coming and
So she ended up coming and "refused" to bring clothes, pjs or her homework. My fiance told BM sshed have to.wear the.clothes on her back all weekend. I just cant believe this irresponsible disrespectful twit is 14!
I have a twit like that. Oh
I have a twit like that.
Oh wait. She's 19.
It doesn't get better. :O
~ Moon
Im sure the attitude and
Im sure the attitude and behavior will only het worse. But at least visitation will end someday.
HHB is getting there,
HHB is getting there, herself. At least this past weekend was legit...she did have a competition. Weekend before that...too much homework...and before that...didn't feel well. DH will surely try to get HHB to come over again this weekend, as it is a competition-free weekend. I'm sure there will be another excuse...at least...I'm praying for one.
One of my SD's excuses was,
One of my SD's excuses was, "My brother is getting out of jail." (not DH's son)
I told DH, "Big deal, he's in and out of jail all of the time. What's so special about this time?"
Unfortunately, this is the
Unfortunately, this is the type of thing that some exes play into with the skids. A parent might say that the skids don't "have to" go if they don't want to. If they are attempting to PAS the skid(s) out, they will come up with ALL SORTS of fun activities to entice the child into saying that they would rather stay home.
At least that was how it was in our situation.
oh, BM said right in front of
oh, BM said right in front of SD at a "counseling" session that she didnt think SD should have to spend the night at her father's house.
she has always said that SD is sooo mature and can make decisions herself. (the court disagreed with her on that one). however, in SD's mind she has all the control and power. Particularly since BOTH of her parents give it to her.
OMG! DH's ex thinks the same
OMG! DH's ex thinks the same way about HHB! "She shouldn't be forced to do anything she doesn't want to do!" Oh, so no wonder she went running to you when DH finally started laying down rules and consequences!
they just dont get that
they just dont get that skipping visitation because they "dont wanna" is minor compared to "you need to be home at 11pm" and the response is "i dont wanna" and they come home at 3am, after doing lord only knows what.
my fiance really truly beleives that this attitude and behavior is "typical teenager stuff". in fact, i HIGHLY suspect BM is TELLING Sd14 this as well. Ive seen soem of SD's texts to him. They say things like "im not 6, i dont have to check in with my parents" and "this is typical teen behavior, im a teenager". ALl phrases and thoughts she'd never come up with on her own, just like a year ago when she made the claims of "verbal abuse". again, a term she'd never come up wtih on her own.
i think her mother is encouraging her to be defiant, rude and irresponsible and to "have fun" with her teenage years.
sick!
I still remember at the end
I still remember at the end of last school year, when HHB brought home her class choices for this school year. He handed it to DH and told him she needed it signed, and when he started questioning things about it, HHB's response was something like "You don't need to be concerned with what I'm taking"! Seriously? She also doesn't think she needs to check in or let anyone know when plans change. 15 going on 30 for sure!
But BM doesn't care what classes HHB takes. She doesn't care where she goes or when she will be home. And if HHB doesn't want to come for visits with DH, BM is the last person to force it! Doesn't she understand how this kind of thing is biting her in the ass (i.e., the whole driving without a license incident)?
FFS, let her take Underwater
FFS, let her take Underwater Basketweaving. I'm sure it's something she'll need for her future.
She won't need them right
She won't need them right now...
She's dating another girl
She's dating another girl right now. But I'm sure that won't last!
Y'all crack me up!!! I sit
Y'all crack me up!!!
I sit here thinking...the girl is really setting herself up to have a wonderful life on the pole! I mean, she has adopted a shortened version of her name as what she would rather be called that REALLY sounds like a stripper name. If you ask her, dancing is her life. Now, she is supposedly into girls (which I knew a couple of girls in school who ended up being strippers...they both ended up being bisexual or lesbian because they said that guys were such pigs, and after work, a man was the last thing they wanted to come home to...they said it was a common thing with strippers). She loves wearing her hoochie clothes. I'm betting she can't wait until she turns 18!