Signed Contract not followed or enforced.
On my last post under "Will it really change? The Aftermath", DH finally sat skid down and laid out the rules to living in our house. So far attitude is a bit better however he doesn't follow the rules. HIs GF is suppose to be gone by 2 am on the weekends, I was awake it the kitchen at 3am and they both were still in the basement asleep. No food or drink anywhere except the kitchen, skid keeps on taking his coffee upstair and spilling it on the way and leaving coffee mugs filled with cream and sugar to rot in his room. Does not keep his room clean, or the bathroom he uses, only cleans it when my DH says something and then it is half ass at best.
DH won't says anything and I am at the point where i won't even have the discussion with DH, I will just do it myself.
Skid got fired since my last post, told his Daddy that he was laid off which is bullshit because the company was advertising for his position a week before they fired skid. He kept on calling in sick and not showing up on time. He he suppose to start paying rent, his cell and insurance on the 1st of February and I am just waiting for the excuse. If I lost my job my creditors and the mortgagee don't care, they just want to be paid and skid needs to learn this life lesson too.
I am just sick of it. I don't want to talk to DH about this because it becomes a fight and I am not sure if he really will handle it or just tell me he did and try to blow smoke up my ass.
Has anyone else decided to just do it themselves? What happened? Any advice?
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Yeah, 2am is just setting
Yeah, 2am is just setting everyone up for failure. I would make it midnight and kick her out before they fall asleep.
A small air powered horn from
A small air powered horn from HomeDepo, big plastic pitcher of ice water, kick in his door at 02:00 with the horn blaring and douse them in ice water and tell her to GTFO. Inform them as they scramble for the door that this will happen each and every time from now on and if either one of them gives you any lip that you will call 911 and have the GF hauled out of your home in hand cuffs.
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Ha ha - I love the visual
Ha ha - I love the visual image of what this would look like !!!
Love how the entitlement
Love how the entitlement mentality flows over to include the skids girlfriends/boyfriends. Like we are responsible for the entire $&@%# population of twenty-somethings
Have you seen failure to
Have you seen failure to launch? He would bring girls home to his/his parents' house when he wanted to dump them. And the one girl ran out in the middle of the night when his dad walked in! At least those girls had some sort of respect, not wanting to be with someone still living at home. Girls today just have no standards. As long as these guys can find girls to put up with it, they won't change!
"Has anyone else decided to
"Has anyone else decided to just do it themselves? What happened? Any advice?" My SD was not living with us at the time I banned her from my home but I took care of it by myself. My DH was too much of a coward to confront SD or even expect her to respect me in my own home. I was done arguing or even trying to reason with DH. I asked myself if I was willing to continue to put up with all of the B.S. that I had for over 20 years and the answer was a resounding "No!"
Your SS and you DH are being disrespectful of your rights as a home owner. Give SS information about homeless shelters in your area, and change the locks so he can not return. If your DH doesn't like it change the locks again.
I had input on drafting the
I had input on drafting the contract, I said 11:00 pm on weeknights and 1:00 am on weekends (because that was my curfew when I lived at home) however my DH negotiated it by an hour. However if it is too later because he falls asleep before driving her home obviously it should be earlier. My DH has it in his head that "I will deal with my kid and you deal with yours", which in some circumstances is ok, but he does not deal with his and when it effects the house I live, the example being set to my own son then I have an issue with it not being dealt with.
The contract says if he doesn't follow the rules he does not live here and that by his choices not to follow the contract he chooses to move out. I cannot see my DH ever enforcing it unless I put the hammer down.
I went to bed before skid came home last night otherwise I would have said something to him in front of DH. DH is away on a business trip tonight but if he comes in the door before I go to bed I will be talking to him and I need to ask him why he was in my bedroom, I found his dirty clothes on my nicely made bed. If he tells me that I am not his parent and I can't tell him what to do, I will tell him I am your landlord and I can kick you out.
I was looking at buying an investment property with 2 suites and my DH thinks I should rent one to his son for a subsidized amount ($500 instead of the $950 I could get), fat chance in hell I would. He would end up not paying his rent getting kicked out and then expect to live in my personal residence not to mention he would make it a shit hole because he never cleans. I can't believe my DH can be so stupid or blind or maybe both. Arghh!
I am getting ready to have
I am getting ready to have SD19 sign a contract, at the end of the semester. She'll be 20 then. I have a Disney DH who does nothing but enable her. Could I really kick her out? Does she have to be over 21? Does she NOT have to be a dependent on our tax return?
She stays at school, but the 4 months that she is home are hell. Like dealing with a 7yo with a potty mouth!
~ Cindy
BarkAtTheMoon not sure about
BarkAtTheMoon not sure about the laws where you are, but I am in Alberta Canada and kids are considered adults when they are 18 years old. Once they are 18 you can only claim them as a dependant if they are in full time school living with you or paying for them in a dorm.