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Dreading a whole week with my SS

stepmomandihateit's picture

I'm so not looking forward to spending a whole week with SS6. He absolutely drives me nuts. His mother and grandmother baby him to the extreme and don't teach him any manners or correct him at all and I have to deal with it. We get him every other weekend and I seriously hate when he is at my house! First off anytime he wants something tells his dad in one word baby talk. Example: if he's thirsty he says "thistry" like a baby, if he's hingry he says "hungry" in baby voice... I can't stand it. Every five seconds he wants some type of snack or something all night long. He seriously laid down in the store and cried because we said we weren't havingg McDonald's for lunch. He acts like a little baby who needs coddled and babied all the time. The entire time he is at my house he just tap dances on my last nerve. He always thinks of himself and wants wants wants. SO and I will be cuddling on the love seat and the little skid will come downstairs and sit right on his lap and take over, and there is a whole other couch. SO and I have recently had a baby and I always wish that it was just us three.

dogtac69's picture

Have you tried giving SS6 some extra attention since the new baby came? SS6 only gets to see his dad every other weekend, and now he has to share that time with the new baby. Spending extra time with SS6 might help the situation.

stepmomandihateit's picture

He has acted this way the past 3yrs I have been in his life. Before the baby we always did fun stuff with him and he would just act like a baby then too. Idk of he thinks it makes him seem cute or what the deal is.

stepmomandihateit's picture

Im not sure if he baby talks at school. He acts out in school a lot though. He really is a good kid he just drives me nuts. I try to make rules in our house and I feel sometimes that SO just coddles to SS6 and doesn't enforcer rules. I'm the only one that corrects him when he baby talks and it drives me insane. I have also banned SS6 from watching shows like family guy and South Park bc I don't think they age appropriate and the little s***t says " well I can still watch it at my moms and grandmas house!" I just wish SO would back me up more and correct his inappropriate behavior. I love my SO and I'm so happy with him.... when SS6 isn't around. Ik that's not good but it's my feelings.

stepmomandihateit's picture

Also SS6 has behaved like this the entire 3 yrs I have been in his life way before our baby was even thought of. I know that his behavior is from his BM and her mother babying him. And SO doesn't always help the situation either.

Rags's picture

Lol!!! We battled this crap for years during pre visitation behavioral degradation and post visitation behavioral detox when SS-22 was in the 2-6ish age range. About a week before a visitation he would start his behavioral crash and burn and when he got home from Sperm Land visitation it would be 3-4 weeks of hell. He had an almost uncanny internal clock when it came to pre departure bullshit.

We had zero tolerance for that shit. Z-E-R-O!!! Our only response to the point and rant, or baby talk requests was, "we don’t speak baby, use your words". During the resulting melt down we would let him flop on the floor,bang his head and hands and kick his feet until we got the end of our patience then either his mother or I would pick him up, give a few firm swats to his ass, carry him by his waist band to his room, toss him on his bed, and close his door. If he came out behaving in any way but quiet and speaking English instead of baby ... back he went.

Fortunately we only had 7 weeks of visitation to deal with each year. 5Wks summer, 1wk Winter, 1Wk spring so we had reasonably long periods of well behaved kid until the pre and post visitation crap would cycle on either end of a visitation.

He learned that volcanic tantrums got his ass spanked and to eat all he had to do was ask. Ask or starve. His choice.

SecondGeneration's picture

Sometimes SD4 tries her luck with baby talk, it doesnt fly here. No idea whether it works with her BM (SD4 is an only child and is generally very well behaved, however because shes well behaved and generally anything she asks for is rarely unreasonable she gets it, which means shes not used to the no word)
When she is with us she simply doesnt get what she wants unless she asks properly. The second she starts baby talk her dad will tell her to talk normally, it generally takes her about half a day to readjust to "our" rules.

Big thing is whether dad finds it irritating or not.

ctnmom's picture

Have you talked to your DH about the baby talk? I would gently bring it up and tell him if the kid accidentally does that at school he'll be bullied mercilessly. My SS36 was an odd kid with odd behaviors, I would try to point it out to DH as gently as possible, as in " I don't think they allow kids to belly flop on other kids in the ball pit, you might want to talk to SS". If I was any more forceful, well then, I was "mean" lol. It helps too to point out other kids that are acting right. It kinda opens their eyes. eg "Look at those kids having a blast in the waves, what a beautiful day it is!" while SS was on the blanket playing with his gameboy and stuffing his gob with Ruffles, all while repeatedly checking the snacks to make sure there "was enough"..