hi glad i stumbled onto this site.. i am not the only one with step kid issues..mines a long story but i wll keep it brief...ish! my patners kids basically do my head in! she had 5 boys, 3 of whom live at home, her 16 year old is the real problem, his language to his mom and me at times is vile, he is aggresive and has threatend to hit me before now.. one time his mom took his xbox off him and locked it in our bedroom, we had locks on door due to things going missing form the room, and he actually kicked in the door and got the xbox back, while his mom was still in the bedroom! he has been kicked out of school and now college dont want him so he sits around doing nothing all day cept eating.. his older brother who is 18 has stole things from me and last year tried smashing up the house a couple of times, we called the police and my partner kicked him out, but now he comes down regulary to vist his mom, i ignore him which causes rows with my partner as she says i should forget and forgvie him for the past..but he his her son and i dont see it like she does.. her eldest, who lives with us, has his son over every weekend, which i dread, he has toys out all over the place and causes havoc.. when my son and his wife comes to vist with his new born baby my partner stays in another room and completly blanks them, she hasnt even seen my granson yet, she says it is because i blank her son.. been here stresses me out so much, i amd always anxious and i am always on edge, i cant say anything to her about her kids and thier behavours as she threatens to kick me out... this has been going on now for 3 years, and there is so much more her kids have done... but i finally feel like enough is enough, i love my partner, but been unhappy all the time is getting to much, i am 50 and not getting any younger and the stress is no good for my health!