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Today Chef Goes To Court For Downward Mod

thinkthrice's picture

And I have a feeling, very little will be accomplished. And why is that?

1. The new attorney that I hand picked for Chef saw Chef's belligerent side and pretty much threw Chef out of his office on their first consultation.

2. Chef has a terrible fear of confronting the BM. He'll do anything and pay any amount of money to her so that he doesn't have to face her ever again. . .including tapping my pay indirectly to do so.

3. This is supposed to be about having daycare costs eliminated; which, according to the new attorney, should NEVER have been "rolled in" to the main CS portion. But then again that would mean that Chef would have to keep in contact with the BM and get receipts, keep track of them, etc., which initially were works of fiction to rival any J. R. R. Tolkien paperback. She hasn't used daycare in well over five years.

4. OSS18 moved out in August to Chef's estranged brother and his partner's house. Of course no one said a word about this; I found out on FB. The paperwork brings up that OSS has indeed vacated the BM's premises and is not in any post secondary school. Which will mean nothing because OSS isn't "self supporting" and CS here goes to 21. But bold as brass BM will most likely still say that she has the three skids in her household regardless.

5. The tax issue was "thumbs down" by Chef. This past summer, when we had the new attorney consultation, Chef adamantly said he would NOT pursue claiming SD16 on his taxes even though they never did a 2/1 rotation and the BM claimed the younger two all this time. Which is ironic because recently, Chef found out that Obamacare penalties for not having health insurance will be MUCH HIGHER than anticipated AND will be coming out of his tax bill. Talk about shooting oneself in the foot! Once again, he'd much rather be screwed (and have me be screwed) then fight with the BM for what is fair. NEVER would he EVER listen to ol' Thinkthrice! (eye roll)

Which leads me to the point that he SHOULD have gone for Emancipation by Conduct AND change of venue because NONE of his kids have said "boo" to him for well over five years. AND the fact that the six foot tall BM is a CPS WORKER and is in CAHOOTS with the CS Magistrate of her county...

But oh, no it's MUCH better to pay CS for an eternity and cower in front of the gigantic BM (eye roll)

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Disneyfan's picture

I get the feeling he never intended to have the order decreased. He has pretty much gone through the motion to for the hell of it. Really, why else would he act like an ass toward the lawyer? Since he's currently hand over extra money just because he wants to, having the order lowered won't change anything.

As long as he can dip into your funds, he will continue to happily hand his money over to BM.

thinkthrice's picture

You're right. He kept on saying "I'm doing this for YOU!" And he has said SEVERAL times that he doesn't care if he pays CS until the day he dies as long as he doesn't have to deal with the BM.

Snowflake's picture

I have to agree with this. I don't understand why you are with him. You seem to be a strong, self-supporting woman. While he sounds like an alchoholic man who can barely afford his booze. You deserve better then to have a guy who has his balls in BM's purse, three lazy kids, and can't take care of himself.

Please tell me you have an exit plan.

thinkthrice's picture

No he's not hung really well. Baby carrot and two peas. And I'm post menopausal so sex is definitely not it. I'm afraid of reprisal unless he is sent to prison for a VERY long time. He's seething with misdirected rage against the BM and pointing it at me.

Once again, we live in the sticks. He could dispatch me before 911 gets the call. I've thought about carrying a weapon of some sorts, however in good ol' NYS it's practically outlawed. If he DOESN'T dispatch me, there are several things he has done on my property without my consent that, if I were blown in by an angry and revenge seeking Chef, would be MASSIVE trouble for me. . .and I'm not talking about something tiny like building a deck without a permit.

I would have to sell the house without him knowing and move silently. Which is next to impossible because he literally gravitates around the house during the day.

thinkthrice's picture

They could not prove it. The property is my name alone and everything he did was cash on the barrelhead with no paper trail.

thinkthrice's picture

Her ace in the hole was HER BM who was the battleaxe supreme and reigned over the marriage with an iron fist. Helicopter MIL. And the thing is that Chef LUURRRVVED his battleaxe MIL and still has some sort of reverence for her!! The same bitch that purposely steered YSS away from Chef during a school play so she could say "see, your dad never came to the school play!"

Disneyfan's picture

All of the people in his life (you, his children, his exwife, his exMIL, even his own brother) seem to hate this dude. There has to be some merit to that much hate.

It's possible he tried to pull the shit he gets away with you on BM and BM and MIL gave his ass pure hell. MIL may very well be a bitch. But based on what you've posted about him, I bet he deserves all the hell that comes his way.

BM, MIL and his brother may be trying to do everything in their power to keep his children from turning out like him. No child should be stuck with him as a role model.