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Wouldn't it be nice if BM's were more like this BF?

justanothergurlNJ's picture

I wanted to share this, I thought it was sweet. Step life would be so much more tolerable if BM's would think like this.

https://www.yahoo.com/parenting/an-open-letter-to-my-daughters-step-dad-...

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notmyfirstrodeo's picture

Wow!!!! Love this. We actually have this on my side, but my husband's ex is her own entity!!!

notmyfirstrodeo's picture

Wow!!!! Love this. We actually have this on my side, but my husband's ex is her own entity!!!

Ljcapp1's picture

I have a great relationship with my boys' SM. They talk about her all the time. She and EXH are separated but she is still having the boys for Christmas at her house. I trust her, the boys love her, and that's all that matters.
I'm not jealous, she doesn't try to replace me, and she and I agree that she is the boss at her house! Maybe because I've been on the other side of things and stepped on by SKids I'm more understanding about her.

Glassslipper's picture

Same for me ljcapp, my kids SM is great to them, I appreciate all she does. They complain from time to time as she has started a new family with Ex, and kinda shows feelings of wanting them out of her home and family...but when they complain, I remind them how much she loves them and takes them shopping and to plays and drives them to and from their friends houses. I remind them that she never had teens before and she is doing the best she can. No one is perfect but she shows you and me that she cares and is trying her best.

Teas83's picture

I wish my BM was like you. I've done so much for my SD and it only creates hard feelings from BM - she's obviously insecure that I have/had a relationship with her daughter. SD started complaining about me after I had my DD 18 months ago and it's all been down hill from there because BM loves it and encourages it. There's no way she'd ever tell SD the things you tell your kids about their SM.

When SD complains about BM's boyfriend, I shut it down and remind her of the things he does for her and that she needs to respect him.

Sports Fan's picture

I read this and actually thought he sounded condescending. The part about him being a yeller, etc. and that his kids would be the same. Also, he was way too convinced that his children were "perfect".

new to this's picture

This would be nice if all sides could feel this way. SD's BM can't say anything nice to DH or about DH so I know she sure as hell ain't gonna be nice to me!!!

Glassslipper's picture

Funny...This is my life with my ex. Not with BM though. It happened about 2 years ago, our teen son fell into the wrong crowd and got in trouble. I called my ex to tell him and make a punishment plan, he stopped me when I started to discuss the punishment plan and said "He is with you this weekend Glassslipper, this isn't my place to make that plan" I was confused... When I asked what he meant, he said "I'm not there, DH is the Dad now in my place. You two make a plan and afterwards, share it with me and I will do the same here." It's been smooth sailing with him ever since....
I wish BM was the same but she is a nasty bitter emotionally abusive and manipulative woman so I don't expect anything but emotionally damaged kids from her...