christmas presents under the tree
SO and I are currently arguing over how to make Christmas work this year as it is our first together.
My tradition is santa brings a stocking and places at end of bed. All presents from family are placed under the tree as an when they are recieved, once the tree is up.
My SO has santa deliver presents at end of bed and all 'family' presents are placed under tree xmas eve (when all are asleep) ready for xmas morning.
Our problem is he doesnt want to change his tradition because of his 7yo and although I agree xmas is for kids i feel yet again it is something that I have to compromise on as he wont.
Any one have any ideas on how to solve this or do i have to give in yet again?
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Children are flexible.
Children are flexible. Especially on "family" stuff. Let "Santa" leave his gifts in the normal spot. The family gifts can be done your way with the explanation that you're starting a NEW tradition. THAT is a compromise that would make sense.
^^^ seems like the best
^^^ seems like the best combination of both traditions ^^^
My daughter is 16 and has
My daughter is 16 and has always been excitted by presents under the tree and has always been aware santa brings the stocking which we have always opened in bed together as a family. Obviously that cant happen this yr because we now have SO around
Its just the feeling i have that it is always me that has to compromise
Every kid I know wakes up
Every kid I know wakes up when Santa comes. My bios, the skids. I never could have pulled off Santa in the bedroom bc I always, trip, drop something, stub my toe and yell shit....something.
I used to just get up as late as possible and put the presents out bc there was never any sleep after that.....First year we had skids, we put out gifts at 2am and YSS was up immediately.
Why can't each of you
Why can't each of you continue your bedroom traditions with your bios, then all four do the tree gifts?
The compromise so far
The compromise so far is...
Skids need to be asleep before presents go by beds
and no presents under tree until xmas eve (when all skids asleep)
This should be interesting considering his all older skids dont go to sleep terribly early!
Ummmmm, that doesn't seem
Ummmmm, that doesn't seem like a compromise to me, it seems like HE is getting HIS way and where are YOUR traditions?
Sorry, but that's not compromise - compromise means you both give and get something in the deal, not one person bulldozes and gets their way. (this was MY experience, OH always got his way)
Oh i didnt say that was what
Oh i didnt say that was what we agreed! Thats his compromise solution.
Still in discussion.
LOL - I was wondering!!! I
LOL - I was wondering!!! I thought that's not a compromise!!!!
I was angry for you....
(I still am actually if that's his opening "compromise" bid?)
Wish my other half was more
Wish my other half was more open to suggestions!
I tried to point out as a new family we need to do something we all agree with but he doesnt want his 7yo not to believe in Santa. I fully understand that but to tell children every single present under the tree was delivered by Santa xmas eve to me seems excessive.
I have no idea how we are going to resolve this without disillusioning the 7yo because if im the one that lets it slip Santas not real to her (which i have no intention of doing and my own daughter believed until she was 13) then my life in this family would be over.
Wait, so only Santa gets
Wait, so only Santa gets credit for gifts? No way!
His kid is only 7, young
His kid is only 7, young enough to change the tradition. I think 95% of the excitement of gifts for Christmas comes from seeing them stacked under the tree in the weeks before. I also do not get the presents in the room thing. That seems risky. If he won't compromise, put your and your kids' gifts under the tree and keep your traditions and let him keep his. I think he'll regret it once he sees SD searching for her gifts and wondering why she has none ahead of time.
Fakemommy- I would love to do
Fakemommy-
I would love to do this but how do I explain to a 7yo that believes all presents are from Santa and only delivers them on xmas eve where these presents come from??
Thats the dilemma.