Why does ex still call to communicate for the sk?
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My step kids are 19 and 21yrs old they live w/BM and both in college. However, the ex still continues to call my husband on matters of health insurance, why my husband has or hasn't called or text the kids. She Randomly calling about my husbands other kids. I feel that she's just nosey she asks inappropriate questions about our marriage, to rehashing there past mistakes. His kids haven't even called in 2mnths his bs maybe longer but seems like 1-2x a mnth the ex calls my husband for random things IMO that his grown kids shld be calling him about. How do we break the cycle of her calling when my husbands answers just to try to have some insight into there lives. She says she calls because their so busy.
I told my husband today to
I told my husband today to text he did it turned into a 45-min conversation she said she would stop calling and tell the SK to call there dad. I feel that they are grown it's time to cut the cord and respect your father. They have only called my husband in last yr for health insurance questions, or asking my husband to cosign for car or money for college. It's a constant sore subject because my husband feels like they have no desire to conti a relationship other then when it comes down to money. I told him if things conti maybe cancel the health insurance to get point across. I know a bit extreme but the bm still continues to live in the past and the kids never move forward it's always one sided and my husband loves all his kids. It's painful watching him feel like he's failed as a parent no matter how many times he reaches out to them.
When my stepkids are 18 it's
When my stepkids are 18 it's gonna be radio silence from bitchface BM. I'll bloody well make sure of it!!!!! Kids of that age can communicate with their dad themselves. Why is she sticking her bloody oar in? Argh. Even the thought of this makes my blood run cold. Agreed with other poster above, get DH to ignore her calls TOTALLY. BM used to call DH at work all the time crying and moaning until I said to DH she keeps doing it because you keep responding and I for one am not having a bar of this shit. She was told in no uncertain terms to fuckin stop it and she has. It's your husbands response to her that keeps her calling etc.
I think YOUR best option is
I think YOUR best option is to IGNORE the situation. Bm calls 1-2x/month?! You can't walk out of the room? Ask dh not to tell you about the calls? How does this affect YOU?
DH can handle it however he wants- if he doesn't want to talk to her he doesn't have to- but it sounds like he DOES because it is how he keeps up with the skids! Has he ASKED your advice about what to do?
Either way, if I were you, I would stay out of it.