the never ending battle
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Just when you think its calm, birth mom opens her big mouth. She is STILL complaining that i should be punishing my 2 year old stepson for calling me momma. Ive raised him since he was 4 months old while she was out partying. She just started seeing him about 3 months ago on a regular basis so now she thinks she is mother teresa.
My stepson is in 4 different types of therapy with early childhood intervention because of HER prenatal drug use. He can only say like 5 words. Of course hes foing to call me momma. Im all hes known through all of this. Should i really have to punish a 2 year old for this? Is it really that bad for him to call us both momma? I do not see the problem here other than she is jealous and guilty. What do yall think?
Thanks. Hard to ignore when i
Thanks. Hard to ignore when i have to deal with her while my husbands in the middle of the ocean for 2 weeks. Ugh
You shouldn't ever punish any
You shouldn't ever punish any kid, no matter the age, for calling you momma. I always read and was told by my family counselor that you should support whatever it is they feel comfortable calling you. The bio dad of my dd threw a fit about that too when I met my dh when my dd was 3. She didn't understand what a step parent is, so she called him her second dad for a time, my ex did not like that and said I shouldn't allow it. I always told her that she could call him whatever she felt comfortable with. She is now 7 and just calls him by his first name. No harm done.
Ignore her, she's jealous!
Ignore her, she's jealous! You have done her job for her - the child will decide when he's older what he wants to call you if anything different.