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SS15 Is Banned from Our Home- Language

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

I can't say much at this point, but SS15 decided to tell some pretty horrific lies about DH and I and CPS is investigating us.

DH sent him to BM's. He's DONE. This little fucker will NEVER be welcome in this home again. EVER. And that's probably a good thing. I never want to lay eyes on him again. He's betrayed us epically.

The fucking idiot left his phone here. DH found it, went through it, and found a text to his friend: "I'll be able to come over this weekend. I'll be staying at my Mom's from now on. I'm done with this place and their fucking rules. From now on, I do what I want! Shitz gonna go DOWN! Wait till you see what I'm gonna dooooooo!" (Spelling and punctuation errors have been corrected.)

THAT FUCKING LITTLE FUCKER!!!! He has no idea how much we've done for him.

He is dead to me.

Good fucking riddance.

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GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

BS18 lives in the home. He'll be treated as an "other adult." I doubt Fucktard targeted him, but you never know.

twoviewpoints's picture

At least the oh so clever :? little sh*t was kind stupid enough to leave you/Dh the evidence of his plotting plan to be free of your home. That message speaks volumes as to suddenly CPS investigating you/DH.

Don't give that phone back, you need to keep that text to his friend safe.

As an aside...I'm sorry you've had such a tough go with these two sons. They both really put you and husband through the emotional wringer.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

He called DH in a panic, led ta message. " I left my phone! I need my phone! PLEASE let me come get my phone.

No answer. Let the asshole sweat.

step off already's picture

Something must be in the air. My ss14 took a swing at dh last night. I wish his mom would have took him when he called her crying asking to live with her but she scolded him and told him to be a good boy.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

I wish we'd sent him to live with BM sooner. But no, we didn't want to give up on him. We had hope that we could help him. And this is how we're repaid.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

I'm not really sure when the report was made, but yeah, CPS will be very upset when they find nothing. It's a colossal waste of resources.

Sports Fan's picture

I'm sorry you are going through this. At least you know where things stand.

Keep the phone as evidence. You need to protect yourself from CPS.

You will get through this.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

I mean it when I say he's dead to me. It's bad. There will be no forgiveness. And if he dragged my son into this, there will be hell to pay. I could also lose my job and professional license. There's no coming back from this one. I hope he and Mommy Dearest are very happy together.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

And to think I was actually feeling sorry for him this weekend. All the while he was going behind our backs formulating lies. Even DH is done.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Oh, that door was open just this morning! Now it's been slammed shut, locked, bolted, and boarded up.

queenofthedamned's picture

Some kids are just assholes. Plain and simple. I am so sorry for what you and your DH are going through.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

I feel horrible for poor DH. Now he's lost both of his kids, through no fault of his own. I don't know how to help him.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Gve him six months with BM and crew and he'll be begging to come back. Nope! I can't have him in my home ever again.

Teas83's picture

I'm fairly certain we'll hear from CPS again at some point. I wouldn't be surprised if SD makes the accusations herself eventually.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

He doesn't dare stepfoot on our property. He and BM both know better. DH and I are both highly trained martial artists. Violence is against our honor code, but if either of them (and it would be BM) threw down first, it would be ON and it would be justified. I'd kick that bitch's ass seven ways to Sunday.

Teas83's picture

This is crazy. I'm glad that you don't have any other minor kids in your home that they could investigate on behalf of. This is one of my biggest fears - and I've got my DD to worry about.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

My only worry is that BM and Fuckface could be cooking up some lie about BS. Now that he's 18, he could be investigated too.

StepLady's picture

That is terrible! You know he is probably a sociopath, and they never change or get sane. If there was ever reason to cut off a kid from your life, this is the one! He will always love that kid and hurt over what could have been, but I doubt anyone would forgive or forget their own kid saying ugly terrible things about them. I feel bad for you all. Sad this seems to happen often.

Stormyweather's picture

I hate to bring this up but when BM kicks her own son out (and she will..as he will soon tire of her rules as well)....where will SS go then?

If its like my situation...SS comes back EVERY SINGLE time as the father cant bare to think his son will be in foster care...meanwhile I then get pushed aside and we have to go back to dating (I live in my own house and he has a rental). NO more. We broke up over the last time it happened.

SS15 checked himself into hospital yesterday claiming he OD'd on panadol as an attention seeking thing after, hoping his father will come and pick him up AGAIN...(the fourth time) only to then treat his father and sisters like shit and he creates so much tension as well as tries to manipulate everyone into feeling sorry for him so he gets his own way..its ALL about control and trying to get power.

let him experience what its like in foster care.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

She'll never kick him out, no matter what, just to prove that she's MOTY and DH sucks. But if she did, IDGAF where he goes. Foster care might be good for him. He thinks we're abusive? He's got no fucking clue.

hangingbyathread6's picture

Ghost I am so sorry you are going through this. My DH and I went through a CPS investigation last March. BM called CPS and claimed DH was abusing skids, my son and me. All because YSS had a bruise on his shoulder from all the boys and DH having a friendly little "wrestling" match and YSS bruises easily. It just happened that he got the bruise, two days later he was in trouble for not doing homework and failing a class and we grounded him, he went to BM's, she was upset he didn't have his phone (so she could use it), saw the bruise the next day when swimming and called up CPS and said DH punched YSS because of his grades, that DH choked my son and abuses me. After a long drawn out process that takes forever, and MY kids had to be involved since we have custody of both sets and they all live with DH, the threat of DH not being able to coach the skids and my kids' sports teams, lose his job, etc we finally got the report that there was NO EVIDENCE of anything wrong, the claims were unfounded and completely dismissed and expunged. Even thought the outcome was what it should be, it was a very stressful time for DH and I. I feel for you. A very good friend of mine who also has had to deal with a psycho BM for years told me this and I just kept repeating it to myself through the process, "The truth will always prevail. Good will always win over evil." Lots of support coming your way.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

I just have to keep believing that the Karma bus is coming to pick up both their sorry asses. I've GOT to believe that. It's all that's left. It's just that it's got so many damn stops to make!

SecondGeneration's picture

I am so sorry this is happening to you. It is the ultimate betrayal and unfortunately it all adds to the messed up work load that CPS deal with and why some children fall through the gaps. There are too many spoilt children on this planet who believe themselves to be entitled but in educated our children about their human rights and not to tolerate abuse a select few learn the most efficient way of crying wolf and getting what they want.

It will take a long time because the CPS have so many investigations going on at once and in the mean time you and your husbands lives will be in a stressful limbo because you simply dont know the outcome. I hope that the BM and SSs mind arent vindictive enough to target your son, and I hope CPS are able to comfortably closed the investigation due to it being falsified.

As for you two, stay strong. My heart goes out to you both, and I just hope your husband is a man that sticks to his word so you never have to argue over SS again.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Thank you. And yes, DH is truly a man of his word. He is DONE. That asshole will never step foot in our home again. He's never to be anywhere near my son or I. DH is having zero contact with either him or BM.

And yes, it's disgusting how these spoiled, entitled teens feel the need to call CPS to get out of following the rules. Don't like it at one house? Cause a huge stink, waste resources, and get ordered to live at the fun house. All he had to do was ask, for crying out loud! You want to go, just go!

This is nothing but a big-ass teenage temper tantrum by a kid who thinks he shouldn't have to follow rules. Nothing more.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

I feel so terrible for him. And there's nothing I can do. There's nothing he can do. We both feel absolutely helpless. All we can do is carry on. DH said to me last night that my BS18 is more of a son to him than SS15 ever was, and we will always be a family. SS15 chose to exit the picture. His loss. He'll realize that someday.

arjuna79's picture

Ghost, my dh has had to name that loss about his FIVE grown kids. And then he turns to my BD27 and says, YOU are more my daughter than any of my own kids. THIS is my real family (BD and me) Yes, it's heartbreaking. But yes, it's even more fiercely real that he can turn to bd and feel the truth of it. It is truly his kids loss.

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

LOL! Y'all are starting to cheer me up here!

Pee free is the way to be Biggrin !!!!!

DarkStar's picture

OMG. Ghost I am so sorry for you and your poor DH, you guys have gone through hell and back.

I am not a violent person, but I would love to kick your SS and BM's faces in. Then go back and kick them again.

Please treat yourself to fixing up that little shits room to be your office/workout room/rec room, whatever your hearts desire!

I think you and DH should take a vacation, too. Somewhere warm and beachy.