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Step daughter lying about me

lovenmybabies's picture

My H and I have been together for almost 7 years and married for 6, when we married he had a 1 1/2 yr old D and I had a 2 yr old D they are now both 8 and together my H and I have had two other children. Since my H and I have been together we have had so many problems with the BM lying, making threats to beat me up and always begging for more CS when she hasn't worked in atleast 5 1/2 years. The problems with the BM we have learned to ignore but now I think we may be starting to have a problem with my SD. At the end of 08 we had a problem with my SD lying and we blew it off since she is a child. This past year everything has been ok with my SD until a month ago after being with us for a week my SD went home and told her mother that I am mean to her and I pushed her down and that she does not want to come to our house again. I was completely in shock since I have always treated her as my own and done nothing but love her and have never laid a hand on her. This really hurt my feelings more than anything. Last week she finally decided she wanted to see my H (only to get Christmas presents)and he then confronted her about what she had told her mother, she denied everything and led my H to think her BM was lying. Before my H brought her back to her BM he asked her once more and my SD finally admitted that she had lied about me. My SD said she did not know why she said that and refused to apologize to me. I need to know what to do, my H seems to think that she will not do this again but I dont want to take any chances since I am the one who takes them places most of the time. My H refuses to say anything to her BM about her admitting she lied b/c he says the BM has mentioned before that my SD lies. Do I blow this off yet again??? I honestly see her becoming just like her mother and that scares me !!

melis070179's picture

I would talk to your SD directly and tell her how her lie made you feel. Tell her if she is willing to tell you why or apologize and not do it again, you can forgive her and move on, and that you love her very much. In my opinion, this is between you and your SD and should be handled between you two, not DH or BM, especially considering how long you have been in her life.

"I child proofed my whole house, but they STILL get in!"

Pantera's picture

I would stop doing things with/for her. I am/was going through a similiar issue. When she comes over, let DH take her places, entertain her, do her laundry, ect.

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus