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violet_petal's picture

So after about 3 weeks my SD8 still has lice. Her mother was supposed to treat her throughout the week after me and my BF treated her all last weekend. It was exhausting!
I came home today and checked her hair and she still has them! I was so livid because it wasn't taken care of. Her mom did only one treatment. I was so mad, I started ripping into my SD on how this shouldn't of happened. I didn't think about how it wasn't her fault and was displacing my feelings about her mom onto her.
My BF was upset but told me that I over reacted, as usual, and wanted to start yelling at me when I was ripping into my SD. This has been building up for some time. I always seem to be doing the wrong things when it comes to my SD. I focus on the negative, make my BF feel bad about himself, act bitchy all the time because I can be very passive aggressive, and ruin fun times.
The type of person I am started questioning if there is someone else out in the world that would be a better fit for him and her. Would it be better if I just wasn't around. I feel like I'm a bad "stepmom" and would be a bad parent because of recent experiences. I'm very depressed right now. I don't know what to do with myself. I feel like I need to just go away but that will upset BF because he wants me there and involved for some reason...

kathc's picture

Leave. Not because you're no good enough for them but because you are TOO GOOD to have that asshole treating you like this.

intrinsicmemory's picture

Okay, wrong to vent at the kid.

But, I imagine you wouldn't be so negative if your environment wasn't so negative.

Human beings are reactionary mostly, and you are reacting to your surroundings and experiences.

I know, I was a super chill person before I had to deal with a BM.