Skids and Impetigo/contagious illnesses

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I am very very new at this step parenting this. I am not new to parenting as I was previously a single mom for 6 years. I work for my parents and my mom. My mo was recently diagnosed with cancer and has been doing chemo and radiation. Her immune system is very weak. My skids mother is fully aware of what is going on and has stated that she could care less and continues to send skids over sick. Told DH that the judge would come down on him hard for using such a petty excuse to not get his kids. Then she says since I dont want to be around her kids then I need to pack my crap and stay somewhere else. ((I bought my home before I got married, the house belongs to ME and my BS, not her, she doesn't get to make those decisions.)) I'm not talking about sending them with a common cold.....SD came over yesterday covered with impetigo...ears, hand, side, legs....and the sores are horrible looking. Lets back track a bit....BM called DH last weekend and asked him to take her to ER because she thought she had staph...he took her and got medication for impetigo....BM waited 4 days to fill her prescription because shes so dang lazy. BM has been sending SD to school this entire time. Then she tries to get us to keep the kids the entire week so that she doesn't have to deal with them, which we refused, it was HER parenting time. How would you handle this? Would a judge really give my husband a butt chewing for not taking the kids with something contagious like this, when my mother is on chemo and sick and can not catch something like this? I'm around my mom 40 hours a week!! My 7 year old BS also has no health insurance right now because I can't afford to pay for it. I don't know how to handle this sort of stuff. All I know is that when my BS is ill I keep him at home with me, I wouldn't send him to his fathers house (not that there is or has ever been an active father in my sons life) to infect everyone there too. There is no reason for infecting two different households and kids, we work just like they do. SHE is the one who wanted full custody, SHE is the primary parent. I have told my husband if Skids get sick while they are at our home WE will keep them and get them well, but when Skids get sick at their mothers SHE needs to keep them and get them well before sending them to us. Can someone please give me some guidance?

No, a judge won't bitch at

No, a judge won't bitch at him for this. The order says she can't keep him from getting the kids on these days, it does not say he has to pick them up or he will be punished. I wouldn't want sick kids around me or my kids, and like wise I don't send my sick kids to their dads house if they have something contagious. He also has steps at his house. Don't let her bully you or your DH. She will continue to do so until someone stands up to her.

MixFoxie, I hate to throw the

MixFoxie, I hate to throw the MY HOUSE thing around. But I think I will have to. I mean we have our money together in one account and he is paying the house note too.....I don't want to seem like a monster, but at the same time, I don't want to catch this and pass it to my mother. Nor do I want my son getting this! The BM is a real piece of work....she manipulates and threatens when DH doesn't do what she says to do. I think it all boils down to shes remarried and he doesn't want those kids over there. When my DH has to work and cant get the kids she has the mentality that the CO states she doesnt have to have them on those weekends, so someone else is taking them and she dumps them off wherever she can. when SD came over last night my jaw dropped when I saw all the sores and crust and liquid oozing out of her ear. OMG. I lysoled everything nearly all night. The kids doesnt understand to stay out of the kitchen and not touch things in the kitchen because shes contagious!! She's 10 btw

I texted my husband and told

I texted my husband and told him that I plan on jumping BM rear when she comes to pick up the kids and he is angry at me for it. Tough sh*t! He leaves for the weekend for work and I'm the one who gets to spend my weekend off disinfecting and cleaning my entire house....ughhh!!

My first year of marriage

My first year of marriage while I was pregnant with our daughter, my SD, 5 at the time, was sent to our house for the weekend with lice!!! BM didn't tell us! My husband found them while he was brushing her hair. BM knew she had it and sent her to our house anyway. It wasn't safe for me to put the lice treatment on my hair while I was pregnant, and we didn't want that in our home anyway, so we took her back to her mom's. BM was mad at my husband and said he was putting his wife ahead of his daughter.

I agree with everyone else, don't let her come over.

EVERYONE is agreeing with me,

EVERYONE is agreeing with me, except for him. He just told me "this is not my place" yet hes living in MY home that I bought before he and I got married. Yet, this sort of stuff is not my place to be involved. hmm.... Doesnt even really believe me that it's contagious. A simple google search will tell you that answer. I'm beyond frusterated right now. He's rather have a fight with me versus pissing off BM.

EVERYONE is agreeing with me,

You're right - it is YOUR

You're right - it is YOUR house, not his! It doesn't matter if he's paying the bills too, whose name is on the deed and/or mortgage? But that is beside the point as HE is the one who's being completely unreasonable. Your mother's immune system is compromised right now. No way in h*ll would I allow my husband to dictate to me anything that could compromise her health anymore. So what if he misses a few visits here and there, it's not life or death for him, but it could be for your mom. Not to mention that your son doesn't have health insurance. It's extremely irresponsible and selfish for him to think any of this is okay.

Thank you!!

We had some similar problems

We had some similar problems with the BM. When my bd was a few weeks old BM had swine flu, didn't mention it to dh and skids still visited. Luckily bd didn't catch it but it could have been lethal at her age. I was furious over that. BM would never let us know if kids were ill so we always ended up with them no matter what. I usually ended up catching whatever stomach bug they had and had to miss work.
Impetigo is hugely contagious. My dh caught it when he took skids swimming and passed it onto me. I had to have 3 weeks off work and 3 courses of antibiotics, the last ones at a double dose as it wasn't responding. I would make sure the Dr or someone is aware BM sent her to school despite knowing exactly what it was.

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