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Advice/Thoughts on sleeping arrangements

violet_petal's picture

I have a SD8 with my boyfriend and we are living in a basement of our home. She has a bedroom made for her down the hallway from her grandmother. Recently she was afraid of things and would have a hard time getting to sleep and being afraid.
It was then decided by my BF to have her start sleeping downstairs with us in a well padded tent. The space is very limited and it would be tough to bring her bed downstairs.
I pretty much can't stand it. Some nights are better than others when I have more tolerance. We have to be extra quiet and it's awkward to be intimate because we don't have real walls.
These last few weeks she was discovered to have lice and this past week we didn't clean the entire tent where she sleeps yet. So she ended up sleeping in our bed the last two nights until the tent is cleaned. My BF slept on the couch for me since I had to work and he wanted me to sleep well. Which was hard because I wasn't next to him and her night light was beaming in my face. I was trying to tolerate this the best that could.
Is this irrational? Should I not be this upset about her having to sleep in our room? What about her sleeping in the basement and the lack of privacy?

onthefence2's picture

If I'm reading this right, *you* are living in your boyfriend's grandmother's basement? If this is the case, I'm guessing you are there for a reason and should probably just be grateful to have a bed and a roof over your head. This doesn't sound like a positive situation for ANYONE involved.

violet_petal's picture

Me and my BF live at his mom's house where his daughter comes to visit. We are working on moving and money issues but it was a difficult situation that got us here but neither of us has a great income. I moved to his mom's to get away from my own parents who are now divorced. We are both thankful for the things she provides but it does get difficult at times since it isn't our house.

violet_petal's picture

Me and my BF live at his mom's house where his daughter comes to visit. We are working on moving and money issues but it was a difficult situation that got us here. We have been dating for about 5 years but neither of us has a great income. I moved to his mom's to get away from my own parents who are now divorced. We are both thankful for the things she provides but it does get difficult at times since it isn't our house.

Rags's picture

:? I am confused just reading this. Not only is this irrational it is stupid. The kid has her own room and you and he dad allow her to invade your personal space. No way would I allow any child to interfere with the intimate relationship between my partner and I. :sick:

Kid to her room ... NOW!!!

Disneyfan's picture

It's possible granndma made her son move his daughter into his room. It may have been done to make you uncomfortable so that you will move out ASAP.

Having my son and his child live in my house until he got on his feet would be fine. Adding a girlfriend to the mix would be a deal breaker. It's not my responsibility to ensure that my son and his girlfriend has a private, cozy intimate place in my home.
Two working adults can get out and find a place of their own.

jumanji's picture

I'm going to bet the kiddo was waking up Grandma at night, and Gma told her son to deal with his kid.

And I agree - having a SO move in with my kid, and then expect me to be inconvenienced by said arrangement? Oh no.