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LOL...NO! Just no.

Evil stepmonster's picture

This is DH's year to have all the skids for Christmas.
I won't even go into how horrible they were to him the last Christmas they were here.
DH just started a new job a few months ago, again because Inbred made sure he got fired from his last job. She was under the impression that if he gets far enough behind on CS she could get him thrown in jail. She was very disappointed when she got in trouble with the judge once he found out why he had lost 3 jobs in the last year.
She was even more disappointed a few months back when she tried to get me fired but instead got a criminal tresspass charge and a RO. I still have a the security footage of her being handcuffed because she got in the officers face when he tried to escort off the property. It was Christmas come early.
Any way, DH isn't able to take any vacation just yet. So of course...who do you think he asked to take off from work to stay home with his darling little children for two weeks.
Me- Oh sweety, I took a leave of absence so I could help you that one summer and now I strongly dislike your kids. Are you trying to get me to hate them? That would do no one any good and you know it. No.
Oh he was pissed. I've been totally open and honest about my feelings towards his kids and they way they treat me, but I guess he looks at it as the first two rules of fight club, you don't talk about it.
Now I feel bad. He'll still get them on Christmas eve and day. They just won't be here for two strait weeks in a row. Then I got text and text and many emails from his family and friends, how I should take the time off of work to do this for him. It's not his fault Inbred is a crazy bitch who did that..well, it's not my fault either. One of friends actually told me that if I like the lifestyle his new job keeps me in I shouldn't have a problem with makeing sure he doesn't have to take off for his kids.
DA FUCK YOU JUST SAY?!?
My income brings a good lifestyle as well thank you very much. He's had this job about four months, it hasn't put us in a different lifestyle. I'm very happy that he's found a job he loves, with people who see how good of a worker he is and pays him for his time well, that he really feels like this could be the start of moving up the corporate ladder, I support him, and am very proud of him but where's my support?
I've been at the same place for 8 years. I just got a promotion and a raise, why should I jepordise my career? Why do people automatically assume that as the wife it's my job to stay home and take care of kids that aren't mine? I was ever so pissed. Any one else get treated like this from the DH's side?

Evil stepmonster's picture

^^^
Never thought of this way but by george I think you're right. I think it could be bad karma to interupt karmas life lessons. Dodged a bullet there.

Dizzy's picture

How dare he involve his friends and family members in this. If they're so concerned about the little hellions being there, why don't they step up and offer to do childcare during those two weeks?

Evil stepmonster's picture

I asked the one friend that. She politely declined even though she doesn't work Mon-Fri.

Evil stepmonster's picture

Oh...no no no, you can't ask his mother to take time off from her career. That's like asking the Pope to go on a date, to a bar, and then getting into a twerking contest with him.

hereiam's picture

Oh, Lord, these people have some nerve, including your husband. Asking you is one thing but to get mad when you decline? And go blabbing to all his peeps?

I did not have kids by choice, no way in hell would I have taken off work to watch my SD. My DH would never have asked me to and whatever his family has to say about OUR business, they can just keep to themselves.

onebright1's picture

*** Any one else get treated like this from the DH's side?***

Yes! My SO's parents do this too.
Always wanting me to watch stwins when SO is at work and complaining loudly to him and anyone who will listen when I wont. Thankfully SO gets it and he will ask if I mind haveing stwins there with me occasionally when I have BD10 with me. But I put my foot down long ago and refused to be the built in sitter. And SO has explained to his parents numerous times.

Teas83's picture

:jawdrop:

I am appalled at so many things in your story. I'm so angry for you. Good job for saying you won't take care of his kids.

I can't believe he would involve his family and that they would have the nerve to say those things to you. How infuriating.

Delilah's picture

It sounds to me like your dh has crossed the line by involving individuals external from your marriage and these so called "family" members and "friends" would be crossed off my nice list pronto, as what sane person would dare poke their nose into someone elses marriage?! These idiots although anyone with intelligence should know, the only two people who really know the truth are the ones in that relationship!

See for me, this would be a deal breaker. The fact dh is content to recruit outsiders to his side, throw you under the bus, irrepairably damage your marriage, your relationship with these people to coerce you into caving into his demands. You going to let him get away with this? If you do, he will do it again and so will the dh groupies. My dh family would judge me and pass sentence on me like this, while dh stood by doing nothing. I cut off ties to those people and when dh complained I told him he was to blame. I would also start blocking these frenemies and consider your options for xmas and whether now is a good time to take a me vacation. You need to hit dh where it hurts tbh.

IslandGal's picture

** clapping hands ** LOVE YOUR RESPONSE TO HIM!!

I agree with all posters who say the man has crossed the line and is quite happy to be pisssed off with you yet won't make his own arrangements to have HIS kids taken care of? What the frag is THAT all about?!! Man has some gall!

Never, ever, ever jeopardise your career for skids! Never!!

You did good, woman! Now stick by your guns and don't back down!

SecondGeneration's picture

You make sure you stick to your guns here.
Im not sure what would piss me off more, my partner expecting me to use up MY holiday time looking after HIS kids or him then moaning to his family and friends when I said no.

I have a great situation with a sane BM (so far), a normal stb4 SD and a partner that will ask me if Im happy to watch SD whilst he takes a shower. He would never expect me to take time off work to watch her, thats one of those things that falls under parental responsibility, you know , between the two people that decided to create a new life.

Its a shame some people (men and women) forget that and think just because you are the new partner or spouse that you are equally responsible for the child.

Evil stepmonster's picture

Yes, Redface Magee and his "anger issues" aren't allowed over if DH is not home. I can't control the boy and if it comes to actually haveing to use force to defend myself or my kids I won't think twice. That was a very unpleasent conversation.

Evil stepmonster's picture

I tried watching him a few times. When DH isn't around he is out of control. I can't handle him and am scared of what he might do, or worse what I might have to do if he gets too out of control. When I talked to BM1 about it she seemed to understand and not hold it against me.