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Cost of not spending an evening with the bratty girls?? $120

SMom in Distress's picture

So the DH tells me that he has a "side job" to do tomorrow night coincidentally at the same time as my BS's football game, which means I will have to keep the twin SD's with me. We had already discussed at the beginning of the season that I would not be taking them to any of the games because a) they don't like football b)they can't stand to sit still for that long c) they always have to go to the bathroom, want a drink or want food d) the attention is not focused on them so they are ready to leave before the game even starts.

So I let the DH know that the time he needs me for is during the BS's game and he blows it all out of proportion. Gets pissed off and cancels his side job so he can stay home with the girls. So now I'm the evil horrible SM because I never want to spend any time with them. Hello??? This is not "spending time with them" as when I'm at my BS's games I'm clearly focusing all of my attention on the game. They live with us full time, go to the BM on 1-3-5 wknds and come back every time with more attitude than they left with. It's clear they are unhappy at our house because there are rules to follow (at the BM house, there are SERIOUSLY NO rules!!)

Here's my question, we have been married 6-1/2 years and I still don't know the SM role? Like what the hell am I even supposed to be doing? Am I happy doing this? Do I want to stay in this???

joe376's picture

I just dont understand why every bio-parent seems to think the stepparents should love their kids unconditionally just as they do... and that we should love looking after them as they are our own kids and not look at it as babysitting someone elses kid... which is exactly what it is....

SMom in Distress's picture

I'm STILL trying to figure this one out... I'm perfectly ok with the fact that he doesn't love my sons like his own. My BS's are teenagers and are self sufficient and DH has never had to "babysit" them. I however have been stuck with these two SD9's since they were 2!!