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Just a rant...petty actually but I'm sick of it!

hangingbyathread6's picture

So BM who wants everything for nothing, doesn't do for her kids unless court ordered, hauls us to court constantly, bad mouths DH and I to skids, and basically lives to try to make life miserable over here also expects us to give her benefits. After all this bitch has done to us over the last four years I'm at my end and have had enough. It pisses me off when I don't see DH being as aggressive about stopping the nonsense.

The most recent issue...school pictures. Now, two years ago we paid for a disc that gives you full copyrights and you can print as many prints in as many different sizes and styles as you want for one low fee. Which is less than a package and certainly less than what we and BM would pay combined. So we asked her "hey, want to split the cost of the disc and we can each take it and print what we need?" She agrees...the disks somehow end up at her place first, and NO SHE NEVER PAID A DIME. So last year she asks "are we doing the same thing?" Sure we will...and we get the discs and NO I WASNT GIVING THAT USELESS POS AN EFFING DIME! We're even. Right? Ha ha ha. Sports pics come and she knows about it, has the ability to order, we order magnets...she gets the package and takes half. Hell no those are ours. "I didn't get any!" Too effing bad mudfence, that's your problem. You want to give us some cash we will share otherwise, go to the website of the photographer...you can order some yourself. Of course she never did. School pics come around, she asks about them. We are ordering the disc. Okay great...uh no, not unless you are paying half. "But I paid last year!" Yeah and we did the year before. Bite me. "Use the CS money you get!" Yeah that whopping $84/month for two teen boys...and that's not to pay for YOUR expenses bitch! So I tell DH we will just order a package. He says to order the disc. That we have lots of pics and it is less expensive even if it is just us. True. Okay. But I am tired of financing that wicked wench and she will NOT be using the disc unless she pays half! This half is a total of $20. Yes I know it's $20 but I'm tired of financing her! She's supposed to pay half of sport signup (agreed to this in mediation with Friend of the Court) so her half is $400. We gave her $100 of raffle tickets that we can sell to "make" some of the money back because it's included in the registration. So DH and I paid $400 last year. She sold $100 of tickets. Kept the effing money. Applied $40...yes FORTY dollars to the sign up. I get collection calls in January that $360 is still owed. Send a text to BM stating it is still outstanding please take care of it here is the contact info. Does she? No. DH says to her what did you do with the $100 from selling tickets? "I had things I wanted to get". Yes WANTED, not NEEDED. He put his foot down and made her pay the $100 because we would have sold them and decreased our cost but we were trying to help her out. I got a call TWO WEEKS PRIOR to this year's sign up...right around picture time so yes I was disgruntled, that the skids still had $260 that needed to be paid prior to fall registration. GRRRR!!! Yes I paid it and promptly told the registrar that this year my bios are to be a SEPERATE account because I was having nothing to do with the bullshit between DH and BM.

Well...where do you suppose YSS's picture disc ended up? That's right folks at BM's!! She's had it for three weeks. I'm getting pics together to give to family members and DH says "we don't have YSS yet". My response was we should. Crazy Train was never supposed to get them. She's had them for three weeks. I asked SS to bring them home or ask BM to drop it off, it hasn't happened, you've known about it. "I'll text her". Then tells me well that's not going anywhere. She told me she hasn't printed them yet and where are OSS's? BITCH you didn't pay for them. They legally belong to ME as the check to pay for them was drawn from MY account and I SIGNED THE MOTHER EFFING CHECK.

So now I'm just pissed. Part of me wants to send her an email or text saying "you are in possession of property that belongs to ME, I would like it returned immediately. If not I will pursue further action". What action? Who the F knows...I don't know if there is any action I can take. Part of me wants to just print out the other kids and hand out the pics and when DH says something tell him you didn't rectify the situation and secure what rightfully belongs to us or get payment from BM therefore when or IF you get YSS pics you can make the prints you want and distribute as you see fit. But it burns my ass that yet again she is getting away with shit...and DH isn't more firm about it.

It's $20. I know it's petty. But it's the whole principle and that she JUST KEEPS MOTHER EFFING DOING IT AND GETTING AWAY WITH IT!

"Crack"...okay, going to drink this delicious Shandy and wait for your advice, scoldings, judgements.

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hangingbyathread6's picture

My exH and I share the disc too...however he stopped by the day before picture day to drop off his half of the discs for our kids. Therefore I have NO problem sharing the disc with him. Nor would I with BM if she actually stepped up. Just done and irritated with her shit. And then I get more irritated and bitchy because I think my DH should be more firm and put his foot down and DO something. Not just a simple "drop of YSS pics tomorrow" text. Right now...I am really irritated with him too! Dammit!

MommyNotMommy's picture

I have nothing useful to say, except that I feel your pain!

Pictures were always this kind of run around. Who's paying, who paid, what was received, who's stealing it... This year, BM got and kept the order form. She likes to make DH pay on her form and get his package as well as hers. So instead of facilitating anyone's bullshit, I told FDH the deadline for payment for school pictures. He did nothing. Picture day came and went. SD8 "Mommy says Daddy doesn't get pictures this year because he didn't drop off a check." "Oh."

And done. I stopped caring, I don't stress about it, FDH and BM can do what they want.

Sports Fan's picture

DH deals with the same kind of crap from BM. She doesn't give him the information so he has to spend a lot of time finding everything out and then ordering online. But the pictures stll go home with the kids and BM gets them. Last year she opened DH's packets and pictures were missing. Of course, she claimed that's how they came. Sure BM. SS pictures came home last week but amazingly she forgot to send them to us last week.

We tried working it out with the school but it is a very small school and they will only send DH educational things.

Just another one of the many frustrations in our situations.

hangingbyathread6's picture

The part that really pisses me off is that we are the custodial parents. They are only at their mother's EOWE and every Wednesday.

I may just write that letter, and forward a copy to the FOC. After all, it's MY signature on the check, not DH's and I have NO obligation to that woman (neither should he really) to allow her access to anything I pay for.

I can't stand that wench!