Venting feels good! I think you are smart in making contingency plans so you are well set regardless of how this plays out. Stand strong, take care of yourself. Wish I had better words for you but it sounds like you're an intelligent and rational woman. Keep putting yourself and your needs first, no on else is gonna do it for you, right?

What a load you are dealing with! I'm diabetic and don't get crazy when my sugar is low, I just head to where the carbs are lol. It sounds like you have a plan in place should you need it. Just remember that DHs don't know what we're thinking unless we spell it out for them. Keep telling him what you think about everything. If you love him so much, give him the chance to change. It can't be easy with his family tugging at him. Be the voice of reason and speak loudly so he hears you! Hopefully he will come around and you won't have to scoot out in a year. Keep us posted!

~ Moon