Tonight is the night that ss was supposed to go with Bm for his sister's(Bm and her ex-boyfriend's child) birthday dinner. Ss is supposed to be here tonight but Dh said he could go. I bought a gift and a card for the little girl and everything. So, I am not against ss going.(though,I do still think she could have planned it for a non school night). Anyway, here's the new problem.
We are in the middle of a very bad winter storm. It has been sleeting all morning(it still is) and it will soon change over to snow(up to 4 to 6 in.) We are afraid that Bm is still going to want ss to go out to dinner tonight even though the road conditions will be bad. My Dh said that we will see how the conditions are and if she doesn't use good sense, we won't let ss go. Is this the right thing to do? I think it is but I don't want her to think that we are just being difficult. It's a safety issue to me.
Oh, and by the way, ss's school called a snow day today so he is home here with me and we are not going anywhere because of the weather so I might be posting and commenting a lot. 
Dawn
I'd say too dangerous
When school is cancelled, I'd say it is a "no go" unless the roads are in good condition by this evening but it doesn't sound like they will be. Someone needs to be thinking about safety. Just my two cents.
I think
you are the "True" parents. SInce he lives with you it should be up to you and dad. An accident could happen and if you feel its unsafe then she should accept that. If she wants to put herself and her daughter and the dad in danger that is one thing you cannot control but you can control your son.
Happy
Safety 1st.
Totally the right thing to do. If the weather is that bad. Why risk it.
Unfortuantly, you can not control how BM will react or what kind of spin she will put on your motives.
Just speak the truth.
Stay home.
That's an easy one... pissed off BM or fatal car accident on bad roads. No brainer which one to choose, if you ask me.
~ Anne ~
He went
but Bm couldn't take him to the restaurant because it was closed due to the bad weather. So, she just had him over to her house for dinner which is only about 5 min. away from our house.
However, I think Dh would have let her take him to the restaurant too even though the weather was bad just to avoid the fight. I kept my mouth shut!
Dawn
hi dawn, i know sometimes
hi dawn, i know sometimes you just want to scream and yet you have to hold it in and think "why the hell should i care, not my son, why do i have to stress out! that's what i tell myself everyday, so i can stay sane.!
-happy mom
oh...
and for the birthday dinner they had frozen pizza. So was it really about having the "party" on the exact birthday or was it as I suspected, just to have ss at her house on our time. Makes you wonder.
Then no one even thanked ss for the gift that he brought and contributed some of his own money to purchase. He felt kind of bad about it. However, Bm and the ex-boyfriend bought separate gifts for their daughter and neither one of them put ss's name on it as coming from him too. So, it was a good thing we sent a gift or ss would have really felt left out.
Dawn
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