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Easylikesundaymornin's picture

Narcissist vs sociopath

Spent a night with awesome people who reinforced that I am not alien.

Three hours of chatting about my various incidents w SD have reinforced that I am not an alien. I have said she is a narcissist but could she be a sociopath.

Holy shit ~ I love my fiancé n people very close to him have assured me I have done everything I could to help even said I did more than most people would. I feel do completely validated. Great night ~ they see how much I love him n saved his life.

Couldn't feel better ~ wow their are people who do take those rose colored glasses off.

I feel awesome !!! Good night Steptalk & thank you for helping me ~ when things were rough you were always there for me. I love ya all.

Too much red wine ~ god I feel good ~ hope DF sees how much I love him n how much I have done for him.

Now it's up to him to rekindle relationship w SD ~ but it's good to know his family knows what I have put up against these last 4 years n what I tried to do.

Karma is gonna be sweet when she shows up !!!

sandye21's picture

Ya, it's pretty nice to be validated. This happened with DH's relatives. Several of them will not allow SD in their house and have mentioned how awful she treated me. Also, some of my neighbors saw SD in action when Daddy wasn't there. So when you people actually tell you that it isn't you, it gives you more confidence to stop the toxic crap. And in my opinion, wine sometimes helps too..

Easylikesundaymornin's picture

Yes !!!! Yes to all of it !!

I feel like the weight lifted off my shoulders. Such ~ incredible feeling.

shes driving me crazy in my retirement's picture

It is so hard when you know you are being treated badly, don't like it, but can't stop it because your significant other doesn't see a problem. Or worse yet, wants you to be big about it.

NONSENSE! We all deserve respect and we should give respect in return. No one needs to bow down to someone and vice versa. And, while certain being human we all rub each other the wrong way at times, it is being able to realize it and understand why the other party is hurt and CARE about their feelings, etc.

I know that there are those that talk about unconditional love, etc. My Twit is one that tells her DH that all the time, or at least use to before his counseling. In counseling he learned that unconditional love doesn't mean allowing someone to run over you with a mac truck and then back up and expect you to like it....because that is how they are.

Loving relationships, and friendships are based on mutual respect and caring. People and family that can't behave that way are no friends and do not deserve a place in your home, at your table etc.

Easylikesundaymornin's picture

This is the exact manipulation I am speaking of " unconditionàl love" ~ .... Your reference is perfect !!! But so distorted !!!

I decided a couple years ago that I had eaten enough crow for life. I have slowly figured out on my own the players n who enables who. It's ridiculous ~ why everyone feels bad for SD while she is lying right to your face bc she believes no one will check up on her story. For years no one followed up with her stories ~ now they do. No confrontation about her lies ~ just stating I thought she was lying.

Hmmmmm do you believe me now ???

Easylikesundaymornin's picture

Unconditional love worked when my kids didn't know better. It doesn't give them a hall pass to treat people like shit.