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CantKeepDoingThis's picture

I went to put my gym bags in the backseat of my car this morning. Usually, I keep them in front with me, but since I have to go back later, I decided to put them in the back seat and leave them for later. In the door I find the following items:

1. Baggy with partially eaten banana bread in it...this was given to SheSloth by DH to eat 2 weeks ago.

2. Straw wrapper.

3. Gum wrappers.

SheSloth has been told over and over and over to police her trash in my car!!! My car is not her trash can! I've even told her repeatedly that she is no longer allowed to have gum in my car, because she leaves her wrappers in the door handle every single time. Of course, SheSloth denied that she ever does this. Oh, so it must have been the gum ghost who left those wrappers in my door this time! I brought it all inside rather than putting it in the trash outside...waiting for her and DH to get home so that the issue can be addressed yet again! It's one of those things that cannot be disengaged from...my car, my hard earned money to pay for the car, she WILL treat it with respect!

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

I wish I could do that, but we can't all sit in DH's car for things like going to church or anything where all 3 of us are going. Otherwise, if DH has to pick her up from school...it is in his car. And I refuse to go anywhere by myself with her.

moeilijk's picture

Well, then DH needs to drive you, drive back and pick up SD. Sorry he has to waste his time and gas, but he's the one with the kid, the crappy car, and he needs to be solving the problem of SD trashing your car. Not you, because your solution is to let her walk.

Teas83's picture

You should leave the trash on her bed.

SD6 used to leave lots of messes in my car. She doesn't anymore because there's a "no food allowed" rule now.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

I'd be SO tempted to mash that old banana bread into some of her clothing...

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

I would be, too...but this is something that needs to be shown to DH, because it needs to be known that I will not tolerate it! Not to mention. Putting any kind of food stuff in her room will go unnoticed with the amount of trash and crap she has in there, will only bring forth ants, which I will then have to deal with the screaming coming from SheSloth all through the house as she DEMANDS the bug spray and all...which usually happens when I'm trying to go to sleep. Girl has already had 3 ant infestations in the last 2 months, and each of them were a major event, let me tell you. All happening around 10 p.m. to 11 p.m. at night...at least that is when she throws her fit when DH goes to tell her goodnight, after she claims the ants have been biting her all evening. No, you can't come ask for help with the problem earlier in the evening when you first find the ants...that means getting up and actually coming to tell someone about it. No, she waits until DH goes to her, and then she screams at him to fix it!

Evil stepmonster's picture

I just bought a new car, my first brand new car ever. I love it and named her Tina. Skids are not allowed in it at all. The car I had before was trashed from them coloring on the seats, mashing melted candy into, writing on the back of the front seats or the door panels. Not in this new one. I refuse to let their mother destroy anything else of mine via her hell hounds!

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

Oh I have! His car is a money pit...seriously. Problem is, because he kept having to get new cars without paying off the previous ones, and the fact that it is a known fact that this car is a money pit, he can't get approved for a different car! He has tried new and used...every time..."You are too upside down on your current car for the loan company to approve the note." So, he is stuck with it! Bad thing is, his car payment is $200/month more than mine, and I have the dependable car! But he just had to have his current car. UGH! In the last year, he has had to have a new engine, new clutch, new catalytic converter, new brakes, it needs new tires like every 8 months, etc. There is always something with that stupid car! Believe me...I want it gone, but until he can pay it down enough to not be upside down on it, that isn't happening!

When he got it, SheSloth was not a permanent fixture...as in, we did not have her full time, and we often only got her one weekend a month.

Teas83's picture

A few years ago my SD (then 3) threw up in the car I had at the time. It got all over her and her car seat. My husband took her out of her seat and put her directly onto the back seat of the car for the rest of the way home. When we got home, I discovered that she had also peed on my back seat. My car was a mess.

At the time, BM worked at a car wash where she did the detailing on vehicles. I was SO tempted to make an appointment there so that she could clean up her own kid's barf and pee. I didn't do it because she lives in another town. But after seeing how awful she's been to me over the years, I now wish I would've done it.

kathc's picture

Simple solutions are available:

1. She is not allowed to eat or drink in your car ever again.

2. She is not allowed to ever ride in your car again.

Easy.

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

Oh...and I go out to fix some lunch, and what is on the counter from dinner last night? Bread crumbs and jelly!!! Did she use a plate to make her sandwich after being told the last time (during the whole bread on the pantry floor incident) to use a plate? No! And sure enough...I look in the dishwasher, and there is her knife still coated in peanut butter! No way in hell that is going to get cleaned in there. I took it back out, and put it in the sink! Boy oh boy...tonight is going to be fun!

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Of course, knowing my luck, the girl will be going to "deaf church" tonight...especially since she is supposedly all chummy with the ex-boyfriend again! I want to be mean about it, too!

And like I said, I don't know if DH ever talked to her about texting during class STILL last night, but I counted several text messages from TODAY that happened during the class period (looked at the bell schedule compared to the outgoing text times). When I brought it up to DH yesterday, he said, "Well, maybe she is replying in between classes." Nope...there are some that fall in the 5 minutes between classes or during lunch, but there are still many that are shown as outgoing DURING the class period! Time to lock down that phone during school hours, it seems! Of course, who knows how much other texting she is doing using Kik over the school's wifi!

ItHasGottenBetter's picture

I had to ban gum period bc they would just hide it in the carpet or furniture. Also had to ban fresh fruit. They would peel the sticker off the fruit and stick it on the wall, fridge or where ever. Little pigs.

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

I have done my best to ban food in the car. If we are out and about, we eat it in. I've also been making sure that we have started leaving earlier on Sunday morning to actually sit at Starbucks and have our breakfast, as SheSloth was always leaving crumbs and trash in the back seat. The bread was something that DH gave SheSloth to eat at home, and I guess she shoved it in her purse, and then later it got left in the door of my car. She tends to do that...sits back there cleaning out her purse, and leaves all the junk from her purse in the door of my car. The last time I heard her getting gum from her purse in the back seat, I told her not to chew gum in my car. She asked why, and I said, "Because you ALWAYS leave your gum wrappers in the door!" She argued that she didn't, but sure enough...she has been sneaking gum from her purse when I'm not looking, and leaving the wrappers in the door. I don't buy her gum, but she always manages to talk DH into it..."You know if I don't have gum I chew the inside of my mouth!" THEN STOP CHEWING THE INSIDE OF YOUR MOUTH!

She used to also put her makeup on in my car. I put an end to that real quick when I would find makeup on my seats. Thank goodness they are leather and I have a good leather cleaner.

Bottom line is the girl is a lazy slob, and has no respect for anyone's stuff! She doesn't even respect her own stuff, as is evident by the state of her room, and the multiple phones/electronics she has been through over the last couple of years! Why take care of anything, when you can just sweet talk daddy into replacing it or buying your more stuff? Of course, that has been getting squashed on a lot lately!

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

At BM's house, it has always been "whatever". BM is quite the slob herself! Their house would not even be cleaned if BM's husband didn't clean it!

But, no...DH never backed me when it came to SheSloth and her slobness...still doesn't! When she was little, it was always excuses that she was too little to clean up after herself, and he would clean for her. Just leave your plates on the table...daddy will pick it up! She had to clean her room, DH would call over his sister and mother to help her clean! So, living 90+% of the time at BM's and being treated like a baby whenever she did come to our house has turned her into a lazy slob! Now that she is with us full time, I can tell her until I'm blue in the face, but it never changes! Seriously...the plate issue was covered for about the billionth time just a week ago! She was TOLD "when you make a sandwich, make it on a plate, and if you make any mess, clean it up!" She is 15!!! So what does she do last night? Another sandwich made ON THE COUNTER leaving the mess behind that would normally be confined to the plate...had she used one! Because BM and DH let her do whatever she wanted, and whenever I tried to tell her anything I was never backed, she continues to do whatever she wants...and does things the laziest way possible!

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

BWAHAHAHA! That would make her scream! I'm seriously surprised I didn't end up with an ant problem in my car! They have been everywhere all of a sudden the last few weeks...must be that we finally got rain or something. My cat's food I keep in an igloo cooler with a weighted ball on it (because the cats got smart enough to figure out how to open the cooler). Somehow, those little buggers found the cat food, and was all in the cooler...had to have found just a pinhole crack to get into! Luckily, I had not put the new bag of food in there yet. Had to spray all around the utility room...every corner, around the door, under the sink, behind the dryer...anywhere I could think of where there was a crack of any kind they could come back in. If they could find that cat food from outside, I know they could have found the bread in the car! That would have been quite the pain to clean up!

FrackturedBradyBunch's picture

Yep yep yep.....

As soon as Skids finished primary school and went to high school....I drive them no where.

I got a nice smaller car instead of the people mover and just say, sorry, no room.

We don't go anywhere as a family, disengaged from that ages ago...

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

Of course...she isn't home. DH "thinks" she had deaf church tonight. I mentioned the mess on the counter, and the mess I found in my car, and got another, "I'll talk to her about it." UGH! So frustrating! AND...there is a water leak somewhere within 10 miles of my house which ALWAYS means that the water is going to get shut off for who knows how long...probably until midnight the way they usually do things.

BarkAtTheMoon's picture

You should sprinkle itching powder in her bedsheets along with the plastic ants. She may shower but until she cleans her sheets, she will itch. }:) }:) }:)

~ Moon

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

@Sally...Oh, I'm going to be checking every single time she gets out of the car from now on, and going to make it a point to tell her to get her butt back to the car and pick up her crap!

So...update on how things went last night. DH picked SheSloth up around 10 pm from the school after she supposedly got back from deaf church. I'm in my room when they get home, and I hear SheSloth stomp off and DH yell at her, "Get back here...we aren't done yet!" I don't know what happened in the car, but what I'm able to gather from the conversation was that SheSloth has yet more color guard drama, and is throwing a huge fit about it! That solo that she supposedly had this summer and was cut from the show, that she was supposedly given back about a week or so ago, is apparently nixed from the show again. Again...don't know the details, but I come into the room about the time DH is telling her, "I don't know how you act at school around other people...but the impression you give here at home is that you are a snotty little brat! I'm not here to sugar coat anything for you...I'm not here to be your friend. I'm here to tell you like it is, which none of them will tell you!" From this, I gathered SheSloth went into a total hissy about how the color guard captain is out to get her, nobody likes her, etc. No...none of this would have anything to do with the fact that SheSloth talks shit about these girls all the time behind their backs...at least the way she sees it!

The whole time, SheSloth is just sitting there with this "will you just shut up and let me go to bed" look on her face, hip out, arms crossed. And seriously...I don't know what is up with the girl, but she was looking like total crap yesterday! Eyes were all bloodshot, outfit so did NOT match and looked terrible. She had on a long black maxi skirt with this sleeveless, white and blue tie-dye button-up shirt tied in front in a way her stomach was showing, and that stupid gray beanie on her head. It was like winter meets summer white trash meets trying to be city casual? You would have had to see it.

Before she was allowed to go to bed, DH showed her the baggie of goodies I found in my car, and told her she needs to start cleaning up after herself. He also pointed out the sandwich mess, and told her to quit making her sandwiches on the counter. This is when I threw up in my mouth a little. SheSloth proceeds to try to brush the crumbs into her hand and puts the crumbs in the trash. She then goes to scratch off the jelly with her finger nail. When there is still a little sticky left on the counter, she LICKS HER FINGERS and goes to rub it off!! DH looks at her..."Really? There is a sponge right there on the sink for wiping counters!"

And with that note, I'm off to go wipe the counters down with my bleach disinfecting cleaner before I make my breakfast smoothie!

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

Supposedly, there is a church service south of the city specifically for the deaf that the ASL club goes to. The whole "expedition' is headed up by the very young ASL teacher that I have serious issues with...the one who is living at the ex-boyfriend's house, and who took SheSloth out for a mani-pedi and Starbucks when they broke up last year.

But seriously...the whole lick a finger to rub stuff off the counter thing just grossed me out completely! Is the girl that much of a lazy slob? How could she even think that is acceptable?

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

Great...family came into town unexpected and we are all expected to go over to my SIL's for dinner! I don't want to be anywhere near that! Especially considering that the family in town is always concerned about what is going on with everyone, so they will ask SheSloth, and I will be stuck sitting there listing to the spewing of the drama with the "feel sorry for me" tone in her voice! Gag! I want to be at the gym!

BarkAtTheMoon's picture

OMG you're prob there now. I would've said I didn't feel well lol. I make DG and SD13 spray the counters and table on nights we have dinner together. I also holler out when there are dishes in the sink. I say that somebody needs to come do them NOW because they aren't mine. LOL They are never mine, I clean as I go.

BTW, SD19 has a gray beanie that she wears in the summer. I just look at her funny.

~ Moon

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

SheSloth just got chewed out again! Tomorrow morning is trash day, and the can has to go out to the curb. It's getting ready to downpour! DH tells her that the can needs to go out before it starts to rain. SheSloth finally emerges 10 minutes later to get the bag from the kitchen. She puts that in the can and comes back in barefooted. She is told, "that meant the can to the curb!" SheSloth has a fit, and goes to put on shoes. 5 minutes pass, and she still doesn't emerge! It is starting to rain, and I am pissed...especially since she just got through asking for money earlier! You can't do one thing you are asked, especially knowing it is your chore and you should do it without being told? I get up, put my flip flops on, and take the can to the curb in the rain! I come back in, and SheSloth is finally emerging with shoes! Of all the slip on shoes she has, she decides she needed to put on lace up boots to take out the trash!

DH asked why I just did that! I tell him, I'm tired of her operating on HER time...I'm done with the huffing, the fits, the "I'll get to it!" I tell him im done! DH gets on her bad! She tries to argue her case, and he's like, "You were told nearly 20 minutes ago, and you shouldn't even have to be told to do it!" He asks her why she didn't put her flip flops on. She tries to give him some BS that she hasn't owned a pair of flip flops for years. Um, your flip flops were next to the from door just last week! "Oh those? Oh, those are at school in the guard room!" "Oh, so instead of saying that, you have to try to lie about having flip flops?!" Dig, dig, dig! I mean, how dumb does she think we are?

That's when she really gets yelled at! In her room pouting now!

Oh, and if anyone is wondering, I knew if I didn't take it to the curb, it never would have gotten there. I mean, she would have still gotten yelled at, but DH would never make her go out in the rain to do anything! Like it would kill her to get a little rain on her!

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

Their solution when it is too full is to tie the bags and leave the in the kitchen next to the trash, because they know that the critters will get to it. Oh hell no! Not with the way the ands have been lately, and you know me and smells.

BarkAtTheMoon's picture

SD13 is the same way. We send her upstairs to get something and over 5 minutes later she hasn't returned. It's usually when we're waiting to go out the door somewhere! I used to yell up to her "Are you lost?" but now I just ask DH to handle it. SD13 usually handles the jokes pretty well because she knows she's a goofball, but SD19 is hyper-sensitive. You can't put her in her place on anything. I don't know what I'm going to do when she gets home from school. I guess I can ask her calmly to do things and when she bitches and says "no" I'll just repeat the phrase and tell her she can do this NOW or there will be consequences. I don't know how I will keep my voice even. It's almost to the point of being funny, so maybe the humor of having to "baby" a 19yo POS will help me smile as I speak to her.

I just have to get DH on board before SD19 returns home. Argh.

~ Moon

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

SheSloth does everything about a slow as a sloth! Sheeesh! Sunday mornings are painful! She spends more time messing with her phone or her music than she spends getting ready. So, we are ready to go, and she still doesn't have shoes on. Watching the girl put shoes on...OMG! She puts on a sock and takes like 2 minute to arrange the sock right on her foot. Then she will put on a shoe, and spends the next 3 minutes tying the laces and stuffing them in the shoes...because in this day and age, you simply can't have the loops hanging out! Then, we have to wait for the whole process on the other foot. Walking to the door...dragging her feet, smallest steps possible. Girl has NO sense of urgency about anything! I would tell DH to just leave her, but that would be what she wants, as it is obvious by her that church is the last place she wants to be. That, and I don't trust her home alone!

Whenever she is told to do something...it is done half-assed, or you get "I'll get to it"...which she never does until you tell her yet again and again.

Unfortunately, it is sounding like SheSloth brought her grades up just in the nick of time. Supposedly turned in some work that she had 0's for. Seriously, teachers are wimps these days! These kids have no urgency to do their work, because in reality, the teacher will accept it at any point in the grading period! I miss the way it was when I was in school...you had like 2-3 days TOPS to turn something in late...and the later, the more points docked. After that, the teacher wouldn't even accept it! There was none of this crap with teachers going through the gradebook with you and telling you what your missing assignments were and giving you one last opportunity to turn it in for a 70% or what ever. No, you were responsible for keeping up with your assignments and getting them turned in when they were due!

BarkAtTheMoon's picture

Our social security is just going to suck monkey d*ck with this entitled generation. Ugh.