Fiancé's Ex Girlfriend and he had a Child with
Ok I've been with my Fiancé almost 2 years now. I was in a previous relationship a marriage of 20 years. From this marriage we have 2 child a son 23 and a daughter 18. My ex and I do not interfere in each other's life we discuss kids and that's it and when we have to communicate we always seem to apologize for intruding. However my fiancé and his ex have an 8 year old and she has a 17 year old from another man. They lived together 4 years until he found out she had numerous affairs. So now she calls all the time about the kid and calls. I'm talking multiple texts in a day and times 2 or three phone calls. Today she wanted him to got run an errand for her kid not his...hers. Today he slept in late because he's been tending to me day and night because of a knee injury. She blew up his phone text after text, then phone calls then she called my fiance's dad to call him. I think she is not respecting our relationship at all and that she needs boundaries. I bring it up but then I'm the bad guy. I love this man and his child but I'm not sure what to do.
It's up to your SO to stop it
It's up to your SO to stop it and if he doesnt then its up to you to decide if you want to deal with it.
This is bull and your fiance
This is bull and your fiance needs to end it. They are not together anymore, his days of doing her bidding are over. Otherwise, he might as well go back to her.
If he thinks you are the bad guy just for wanting some boundaries, you are in for a long, hard road. Read up some on this site and you will see that if this is not taken care of, you will regret marrying him because it will never end. In fact, it will probably get worse once you marry.
You need to be sure that he values your relationship and that it comes before his relationship with his ex.
I'm so glad I found this site
I'm so glad I found this site I was starting to think I was the unreasonable one.
Well I just told him that
Well I just told him that enough is enough and he needs to deal with it and put both the ex and the exs kid in there place. I told him know woman wants to feel like second place to her mans ex
HE is not making her have any
HE is not making her have any respect.
He needs to stop answering her unless it's about HIS child and it's actually important. That means, "Little Billy won't eat his peas!" is HER PROBLEM not his and requires no response. However, "Little Billy fell off his bike and broke his arm" sure, that requires a response.
Wow thank you all it has
Wow thank you all it has really shed light and also helped me gain my strength to tell him, she had her chance sorry but the only thing you have is a child and that relationship is seperate your relationship with your son and her relationship with her son. Thank you all I will update and if anyone needs advice...I'll give what I can. I'm 45 with a 20 year marriage behind me with a 23 year old soldier son who has deployed twice to Afghanistan in a combat job. Trust me I'm not a weak person but in feel like my skills to communicate with my new fiancé lacks. It's like I say something and it comes out wrong. On a good note just in the few hours I've been hear I am learning a lot.