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Thank God the weekend is over! Who else does the sigh of relief when they go away??

SanityPlease's picture

GAH!

I KNEW it! The weekend was chock full of laziness, attitude and bulls*it.

At least DH had the balls to reprimand her after she threw a fit because she had to do her laundry. It's 10 pm Saturday night and I'm like, uh... you need to get your clothes out of the dryer and put your sheets and blanket in or you wont have anything to sleep in. Then she started to whine to DADDY how she needs help putting her sheets on the bed. *eyeroll*

It all escalated to Bitchy-Bitch stomp stomp stomping up the stairs and SLAM the door.

GRRRR! DH was pissed went to talk to her saying "I don't know what goes on at your mothers house but that crap does NOT fly here. If me or Sanity tell you to do something YOU DO IT!!!"

And then.... He "reminds" her to take a shower. (Now I'm FUMING!!) And she proceeds to take a 25 minute freakin shower! WTF!?!?!?!

And I'm also tired of her hitting my DS2 when he gets whiny, or sometimes (you know how toddlers are) THROWS things, and I've caught her hitting him. NOT COOL!!

So the icing on the cake (LITERALLY) was when I went into her room today and strewn all over the room were plates of cake, full glasses of soda, clothes all over the place (we had a family get together for MIL's birthday.) DH knows about it. Have no idea if he called her on it. I'm tempted to take those plates and put them on her bed. Under the covers. The ones we JUST forced her to wash. LOL!

BUT it's over. Don't have to deal with this for two more weeks. YAY!!!

Teas83's picture

How old is she? I would not let her be around my bio child if she hits him. That's not cool.

SanityPlease's picture

Shes 13. For the most part she's good with him. But only when it's on her terms. Sometimes she lacks the responsibility. She doesn't realize the dangers of some things. Unless I have my eagle eye on him... she will NEVER be alone with him.

Then again we are talking about a girl who can barely take care of her self. When I was 12 I was takkng care of my one year
old nephew.. starting dinner...cleaning the house, because both my mother and sister worked full time. I WAS 12!!! DH was still cutting SD meat at 12 SMH...

Rags's picture

A 13yo hitting a toddler is not gonna fly in any way shape or form. Not even once. Call the cops and put her ass in Juvi.

ZERO TOLERANCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Pile the shit she left all over her room on top of her bed. She can clean it up when she comes for the next visit.... if she is not locked up for beating a 2yo.

Frustr8d1's picture

You are so lucky they actually go away. I'm a full-timer and my SD11 never ever goes away. We have her all week, every weekend, all year. BM doesn't bother with raising her. I would be so relieved if I could have just one peaceful week without SD's drama. My SD is delayed like yours in being responsible and taking care of herself.

BarkAtTheMoon's picture

My SD19 is at college and SD13 is with us FT since BM died in 2013. I just had a "mini vacation" of 5 days but they were spent with SD13 at home the entire time. I did get out a few times to do things, but she is never gone. She has no friends in the neighborhood, now she is more of a loner and getting weirder all of the time. But she acts like a 7yo. DH still has to cut her meat because she gets all nervous and giggly when trying to use a knife properly. He tells her to do it, she's old enough, but then she just makes a mess on the table. She couldn't tie her shoes until last year in 7th grade. It was always painstakingly slow and the knots weren't tight.

To think she will be driving in 3 years? Oh hell no. I wish she went away every weekend, too. Those were the good ole days. Sad

~ Moon

stressedstep's picture

I do until Tuesdays....SD7 comes for tea on a Tuesday and I really dont like it!!!!! lol.....thank heavens teh SS's dont come anymore....afterf a day at work the last thing I want is to cook for a house of 6!! lol

Evil stepmonster's picture

Nothing is about daddy weekends is better than when we drop the skids back to their mothers and drive away. Even though my kids are home when we get back the house is quiet and there's peace again. The tension I've been holding in my shoulders since Friday at 6 is finally gone and I can relax. It's nice Smile

SanityPlease's picture

I hear everyone’s concern about the hitting. I’ve seen her do the swat on the hand or butt, and gave her a verbal lashing for it. Half the time I don’t actually SEE her do it… But I know. I know his cry. And then I will confront her and say “What did you do???” .. Of course she plays dumb and says that he “tripped” … or “I hardly touched him”. Trust me my mama bear radar is out and the messed up part is, he absolutely adores her. I plan on being EXTRA intuitive when she is here next… It won’t be pretty if I catch her.

Our stories are all so different… yet the same. I went from having SD13 90% of the time to EOW… I guess I should count my blessings.

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

Man...I wish she would go away! Only saving grace I have is that band competition season is coming up, and for the next 3-4 weekends, she will be gone all day Saturday at the events. Unfortunately, still have to put up with her snooty arse on Sundays, which will be a certainty now because she will be "tired from being outside all day Saturday and getting home late!" Girl hasn't even talked to BM in who knows how long! DH asked her the other day when the last time SheSloth talked to her mother. She told him not in a while...supposedly, BM's phone went for a swim at the hands of SheSloth's young half-brother (which is a common thing in that house...the kid destroying stuff...because he isn't parented, either).

If you have to, I would plan some activity for you and your DS2 when she is over. Make it clear to DH that you will not have SD13 putting hands on a young, defenseless child. If it keeps up, is there any way that DS2 could spend time with grandparents or something when she is over? I'm sure if you explained the situation, they would understand.

Somuchdrama's picture

I don't leave my Skids alone with DD2. If I do she ends up "having an accident". I don't even leave her alone with DH if Skids are there because he doesn't see them as the threat that I do. I won't let her out of my sight. They know better than to smack her in front of me but sometimes they try to "verbally" correct her. I also shoot that down, I don't want her turning out anything like them.

SunnySkies's picture

Oh yes, I must be the only person who looks forward to Mondays EOW. The dreaded week starts now as SO has them EOW and one night in the week, which is tonight. So we have them tonight, tomorrow morning, Friday night until Monday morning. Gross. Well, at least I have wine to get me through it. Already planning what I can do to make sure I'm not around.

over step's picture

The week prior to SD14's EOW visit I find my mood goes down and then back up when SD & DH have left the house on Sunday. I'm especially happy when I find out the SD is not coming for her regular EOW visit(which I am finding easier to predict). That is the best feeling.