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Does he really buy that?

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

DH brought up the subject of SheSloth being afraid of me again today. I told him flat out that that was a load of bull!!! It isn't fear, it's that SheSloth knows she can't manipulate me like she does him...that when I say something, I mean it! He tried to play dumb..."When does she ever manipulate me?" Um...all the time!!! Have him several examples...she tried to convince me to buy her gauges, I said no! She tried to argue her case, I walked away! She later asked DH...he at first says no until she lays it on super sweet with her argument. Guess what? She got new gauges! Also brought up punishments she weaseled out of, how she gets DH to clean her messes for her, etc. I told him flat out, "She does not respect you!" He tries to tell me that I should try to talk to her...being female and all. I tell him, "She respects me even less! I don't even think it is in one ear and out the other with her! There is total blockage there whenever I speak!" Again, DH tries to say that isn't true. I tell him to name one thing I've told her to do that she actually did without a huge fit, or one time she has ever accepted my no as a final answer without turning around and bugging him until she got her way!

Crickets.....

MarriedaBallessWonder's picture

Doesn't it make you want to go ballistic on him because he has the gull to defend her to you?

I would have an effing COW!

Ughugh's picture

Use it for your own good. Say: Well, since she is so scared of me, you have to be here with her at all times. Monkey off your back yay!

IslandGal's picture

I'd be going off at him asking why the hell is trying to get you two to talk! Good grief man! If he's so damned intrested in keeping her happy, maybe he should work on getting back with her.

.. and what the hell is he doing still buying her stuff anyway, cleanng her mess - does he even realise he doesn't have to do this any more???

CantKeepDoingThis's picture

Well, during our little convo, as one of my examples that SheSloth does not respect DH, I brought up that she is still texting all day at school during class. When I was on the AT&T site ordering my phone upgrade (hey, if I'm going to pay extra for this stupid NEXT crap and they offer a new phone every year, I'm taking it), I took a peek at usage, and noticed that all day long during classes, SheSloth was texting. Wasn't going to bring it up, but since THIS convo happened, I saw it as a good opportunity as it is a blatant violation of DH's rules! SheSloth AGAIN doing what she wants instead of what she is told to do!

I don't know if DH ever bothered to go look at the phone records himself or her grades while I was off at the gym, but last night at bedtime (because that is when all these arguments seem to happen...either first thing in the morning or bedtime), I hear DH and SheSloth outside my bedroom door. I don't know what started it, but DH brings up the texting during school hours. SheSloth is out there justifying it by saying that the teachers don't care if they text, yadda, yadda. I then hear DH, "I don't care what they care about! I told you no texting at school during class, and here you are doing just that! If you were texting and making all A's, that would be one thing...I probably wouldn't have an issue with it. But your grades are slipping all over the place!!! Oh, and I can promise you that at this point, you are NOT getting a car!" SheSloth starts arguing that she doesn't see how a car has anything to do with this. When he tells her it is about following rules, she says, "I don't see why you are making a big deal about this! It's not like texting in school hurts anyone!" I then here DH, "If I can't trust you to follow the small rules that don't hurt anyone, how can I expect that you will follow the bigger rules associated with driving a car? Rules that WILL hurt someone if not followed!"

After it is all over, I find out why DH must be in such a crappy mood with SheSloth. Turns out the guy she has been talking on Skype with every single night claiming he is not her boyfriend is in fact her boyfriend. SheSloth is saying it just happened today, but I'm thinking it has been going on since the beginning of school! Of course, that explains why she SUDDENLY has all this afterschool stuff she has had to do and her friend has been bringing her home...remember...the friend who doesn't even go to her high school! This is the same friend who's homecoming dance SheSloth is apparently being allowed to go to tomorrow night. Now much you wanna bet that SheSloth won't even make it to the dance? My bet is that the friend picks her up, the boyfriend meets them on the way to get SheSloth, and then they meet back up after the dance so the friend can meet SheSloth home. It doesn't take a brilliant person to plan that out...teens have been doing it for decades! But DH just blindly trusts SheSloth that she is doing what she says she is! Idiot!