DH and I are genuinely worried about my SS8’s safety when he’s with BM. She has frequent car “accidents” and SS8 comes home injured way too frequently.

I don’t think we can’t really tell the judge, “She’s a bad driver” and “He gets hurt a lot” and have them really take it seriously. Because people are bad drivers. And kids get hurt.

But it’s a pattern. And he doesn’t get hurt like that when he’s with us, which is 90% of the time.

We just found out last night, also, that BM left SS8 with another boy (who he had just met, the son of a friend of hers) at the park by themselves after she checked “to make sure no one would steal us”. SS8 also told me it was BM’s friend from before she went to jail. WHY would you tell a kid that? Also, before she went to jail, she was partying a lot and used heroine daily. It terrifies us that this “friend” of hers means drugs again.

Our family court judge recently closed our case as resolved, and it would feel kind of silly to reopen it for something like this (as opposed to some kind of evidence), but it’s really bothering us.
Any ideas for coping with this fear? Or what we could do to ensure his safety when with BM?